Daycare says my son talks all the time there =(

Kristen - posted on 10/19/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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But he refuses to talk with me at home. He does say some things, but he seems very limited and REFUSES to try and coaching I try and offer him. I ask him to repeat everything he wants (cup, milk, food, diaper, pottty ANYTHING) and he has always just stared at me and wont do it. Then I hear yesterday that he talks all the time at daycare, mostly babble they say but he is getting a lot of new words in too they say. How come he wont do this at home? He is very quiet and I try to encourage him all the time to talk, have convos about nothing and I get some, but not like what daycare is telling me =( IM SO JEALOUS!!!!! Any suggestions to get him to talk more at home? Oh, I do try reading with him, but that really is only a bedtime thing for him, he does NOT like sitting still long enough to read and if he's awake, he will rip the books from my hands and literally throw it and bring me toys! lol he's my special little man!

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Kristen - posted on 10/21/2010

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Lastnight I was telling him to be nice with his sister, cause he likes to think she is his own personal jungle gym/beating bag. She is 7 and takes whatever he gives, but he is getting alot stronger these days! lol Well, he decided to run thru the house saying "be ice, be ice" =D made my night!!

Julie - posted on 10/20/2010

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Maybe don't ask him to say anything. Try to take the pressure off the situation. Maybe make it a little bit more advantageous for him to verbalize by not responding to any non-urgent requests unless he verbalizes something to you and then work upon that. For example: "do you want milk or juice?" -blank stare- "I don't know what you mean, would you like milk or juice?" "meh" "milk? you'd like milk? ok, here is your milk."

Basically, you want to reward any verbalizing and model towards what the actual word is. ie, no baby-talking.

It helps to use simple, descriptive phrases a lot with whatever you are doing, even if you think he isn't listening to you (because they are always hearing us) That will help with vocabulary.Eg- mom wash dishes. lots of bubbles. pop pop pop. scrub dishes. etc ...

Be patient and support what he's already doing. He'll talk when he wants to!

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Maybe its being around the other kids that encourages it? I have a dayhome and I know the kids are much different here than at home (some for the better soem for the worse). Maybe try having a play date with kids his age and see if anything happens. Also, it could be the same amount but they could be eggagerating a little too. I would say just relax and know he will start more at home, he may just want you to play in the limited time you two have so maybe just give up on coaching, etc... and enjoy it and let him do it in his own time :)

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