Dealing with the stubborn pigheaded stage!!

Kristy - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 4 year old is driving us all crazy, she is so stubborn and pighead as well as strong willed. She is the type that will get something in her head and simply reuse to let it go. Christmas day she took 8 hours to give in and say good morning or even hello to our visitors so she could have her presents. She is also going through a stage of completely ignoring everyone, and refusing to use her manners. I usually send her to her room where she starts screaming at the top of her lungs to be let out even if the door is open. She is told beforehand that when she is ready to stop the noise and do as she is told she may come out, but she would rather keep screaming. Its driving me crazy its a non stop argument some days to get her to do as she is told. She also throws these sort of tantrums at Daycare and they stand or sit her away from the group and she can come back when she is finished screaming but she just keeps going. HELP is all i can say, thing is she is very bright for her age and impossible to trick into anything

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Kristy - posted on 01/11/2010

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I am glad there are others out there going through the same things. Its when your out in public thats the worst, people look at you and make you feel guilty for trying to make your child behave. I am hoping its just a stage, and we also do the ignore her back tactic. This ticks her off and we get told we cant act like her because adults cant do it!!. I let her scream also as you cant reason with her anyway, but she can go for hours she did at daycare the other day and lasted 2 hours. I have tried everything, including the smacking non of which have gotten us anywhere. We tried being nice, screaming back at her,putting in her room the lot. I just need to hear from a few others that its the same for them, and that im not the only one

Christine - posted on 01/11/2010

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Hi Kristy,
I know exactly what you are going through as my daughter (5 next week) is the exact same. Like yours, Eilidh is very bright and this can actually work to your advantage. She is just looking for attention and she thinks she is the centre of the universe. When she starts being naughty ignore her completely. I tell Eilidh I am not willing to speak with a naughty girl and once she has calmed down and 'nice' Eilidh is back then I will talk to her. Leave her to scream. Turn the music up and take deep breaths. It is a battle of wills with her but, as she is clever, she will soon realise that she won't win and all she is achieving is a sore throat!! Stay calm and don't let her see you upset. Hopefully this will pass soon. Take care x

Cherise - posted on 01/11/2010

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I am having the same issue with my 3yr old amanda. She ignores everyone whenever she feels like it. Sometimes even a simple hello we can't get out of her. Her tantrums are the worse part of it all. But what works for me is I treat her the same way she treats us. She will say hello we won't respond back. She will right away say I LOVE YOU. And at first that was how we all gave in and then right away back to lil miss nasty. SO now we just don't respond to her at all. Its been working slowly. You just have to keep calm and take a breath when doing this. As far as tantrums when amanda does this I turn the music on loud and just let her scream and kick I keep an eye on her to make sure she doesn't hurt herself but after about 5min of loud music she will just give up.

I hope this helps. Good Luck !

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