Desperately need tips for weaning

Anisha - posted on 05/26/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hi,

My son is 14 months+ and I am having a hard time trying to wean him off!
since I have broken my leg an I am on complete bed rest, he sleeps next to me.He takes proper dinner and then I put him to bed around 8.30 pm by breast feeding him. After that he wakes up after 2 odd hrs and wants my feed again, and again after 2-3 hrs. And if I give him the bottles instead, he howls and cries till he chokes on his own tears! my sister tried to take him to the other room also so that he will take the bottle there but he keeps on cryin and crying even for half hour!
can someone pls advise how can i wean him?

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Anisha - posted on 05/31/2010

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Hi Yara!



I must say yours is the sweetest message i have received. Really appreciate it:-)

Thanks for the tips and your encouragement!



Take care

Anisha

Yara - posted on 05/28/2010

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Hi Anisha,

I hope you are feeling better. I agree with some of the tips, weaning of my son was a bit of a challenge sense he never took the bottle no matter what. I can relate to you.
One thing for sure is he is looking for your comfort,but a question I have is are you feeling guilty because you can't at this time give him all of your attention and or hold him probably as often as you wish? I am sure its hard on you sense you are on bed rest and as a mom I understand always wanting to be there for our children.
Take care of yourself, but don't worry about your child not weaning of right now. He most likely needs to feel you close and thats why he cries, besides that is probably putting more stress on you. Once you are better he will be better and even if it is hard right now he will wean of easier or faster once both of you can work at it together. Kids are very perceptive.
once i decided it was time to wean my child of I began by talking to him saying things like , Mommy is so proud of you, your getting to be a big boy now and you drink out your own cup. (sense he didn't want bottle ever) I would distent the feedings during the day, before bed i would hold him and tell stories to him, when he would ask for the milk I would offer the cup and explain again why or make up a story as to how my milk was not ready yet.....
one of the biggest things i tried to remember was every child is different and some just need to feed a little longer than others,try to b as patient as possible even if others r telling you it's time for him to stop breast feeding.

I do hope you feel better soon, and you asking for advice on how to wean him out shows your a good mom trying to do the best for her child, so don't feel guilty.

Anisha - posted on 05/27/2010

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HI Lubna,



I agree with you, the problem is he howls and howls and howls if I dont breast feed him at night. He wont take water, he wont take bottle! But I will try again! thanks for your reply:)

Anisha - posted on 05/27/2010

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Hi Felicia!

Nice name:)



Avent milk teat bottle sounds like a nice idea and milk and honey never crossed my mind. He likes things sweet so I hope it works:) Thanks for the tip:)

Anisha - posted on 05/27/2010

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Hi Kendra:)



You are right about this not being the best time but I think the more I delay it, the more difficult it will get. I will have to go back to work and then it will be more difficult for me.



And your ar right again about him wanting comfort. I think its just a habit for him to wake up and take my feed...before putting him to bed he takes a proper meal so he for sure will not be hungry! I think I just gotta be a tough and let my sis handle the rocking part. Thakns ofr your reply:)

Lubna - posted on 05/27/2010

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hi there...kids tend to wake up till 2 yrs old...try giving him sometin really heavy to stomach jst befor e sleeping..u can try giving him oats ....its really gud...or a banana shake..kids after eating this generally dnt get hungry for atleast for 3 hrs at stretch..tn u can give him breast milk wen he wakes up in nite...after this u can give him water if he wakes up...u neednt always feed him wit milk ,wenever he wakes...then give him again something semi solids in morning by 8....ur husband can really support u at this time...take caree...dnt get tensed.

Felicia - posted on 05/26/2010

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Hmm.... I had to wait till my daughter was 2. We have and still co-sleep so i understand your pain!! I simply wore something that couldnt be easily opened up for booby access and introduced the *special bottle*. This was an avent milk teat bottle with milk and honey in it. Worked like a charm. After a couple of weeks she was more interested in the *special bottle* than what was actually in it, so now its just water.
If you try this make sure the *special bottle* only comes out at bed times and use other bottles during the day.

Kendra - posted on 05/26/2010

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my son is 15 months next week, and he is still waking up once or twice at night time. i have found that he isn't actually waking up to eat, but he is looking for comfort. his first comfort is obviously breast feeding. i know you are on bed rest, so maybe this isnt the best time to try and wean him. when my son wakes up now, we rock in a rocking chair, and i rub his back. Basically what I am suggesting is finding something else that can comfort him.

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