Desperatly wanting my nearly 3yo to sleep in her own bed!! Please help

Karen - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My youngest daughter is nearly 3 and says that she can't sleep without holding her mummy's hand. She wakes repeatedly during the night to check that I'm still there and grabs my hand again. She tends to fiddle with my fingers, which is really irritating. I've tried sleeping in her room on a trundle bed. After about a week or so, I put her to sleep in her bed, then go to my bed when she's asleep, but then she is even more clingy, won't sleep unless she is up against me and wakes about every 20 mins all night long to make sure I'm there. She has said she is scared of monsters.



PLEASE HELP!!!

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DeVorra Lynn - posted on 09/10/2009

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THAT WAS A GOOD ANSWER!!! I SAW THAT EPISODE ON SUPER NANNY!!! AND, YES, GIVE THEM SOMETHING THAT HELPS THEM THINK THAT THE MONSTER WILL STAY AWAY!!! LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE JUST RIGHT THERE IN THE NEXT ROOM IF THEY NEED YOU!!! :)

DeVorra Lynn - posted on 09/10/2009

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Quoting Hansy:

I got the best tip from one of those nanny shows. Put your child to sleep in her bed while she is still awake and if you want you can leave a night light on. You put her to bed and leave the room, don't stay there, don't wait for her to fall asleep. If she gets up, you put her back and let her know very firmly that she can't get out of bed, tell her it's time to sleep. She will probably cry and beg, but unless she is not vomiting (like my son used to do when he cried) she will be ok. Just come back to check on her every few minutes and assure her that you are near. Do that every night for a week. I had my baby sleeping on his bed on the second day, of course every child is different but is worth trying. I never believed anything about those shows but I am telling you it worked with my boy. Now, I just put him to bed wide awake and come back in 10 to 20 minutes to find him sleeping like a little angel. The tricked in that, the lady explained, is that when you wait for them to fall asleep when they wake up in the middle of the night they expect you to be there. If they learn to fall asleep on their own, they will awake in the middle of the night and go back to sleep without mommy having to be there.


 

Hansy - posted on 09/10/2009

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Also, good luck with the monster thing, I have never had that problem with my boy, so I wouldn't know how to help with that.

Hansy - posted on 09/10/2009

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I got the best tip from one of those nanny shows. Put your child to sleep in her bed while she is still awake and if you want you can leave a night light on. You put her to bed and leave the room, don't stay there, don't wait for her to fall asleep. If she gets up, you put her back and let her know very firmly that she can't get out of bed, tell her it's time to sleep. She will probably cry and beg, but unless she is not vomiting (like my son used to do when he cried) she will be ok. Just come back to check on her every few minutes and assure her that you are near. Do that every night for a week. I had my baby sleeping on his bed on the second day, of course every child is different but is worth trying. I never believed anything about those shows but I am telling you it worked with my boy. Now, I just put him to bed wide awake and come back in 10 to 20 minutes to find him sleeping like a little angel. The tricked in that, the lady explained, is that when you wait for them to fall asleep when they wake up in the middle of the night they expect you to be there. If they learn to fall asleep on their own, they will awake in the middle of the night and go back to sleep without mommy having to be there.

Nicole - posted on 09/10/2009

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I also have a 3yo daughter who thinks there are witches in her room ( thanks to dora the explorer, lol) so similar to what Karen posted, I got her a special blanket and told her that the witches cant come in her room now and she believed that. Maybe if she wants something to hold, you could get one of those long body pillows or even just a nice new teddy to cuddle. Being 3, you can probably go cold turkey on the sleeping in your bed thing and it will no doubt mean loads of tears and a few sleepless nights but she should get used to it fairly quick. I would avoid staying in her room till she's asleep as she is only going to wake and expect you to still be there so tuck her in, maybe read a story and tell her she needs to go to sleep now and maybe you could put a sticker on a calender for every night she doesnt try to come into your bed and give her a rewards like a new book when she gets 10 stickers.

Hope this helps :)

Karen - posted on 09/10/2009

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Hi Karen

I think what you must do is find out what monsters she's talking about. Where did she learn about monsters etc. I've read an article in a local magazine about a mom that struggled with her girl and the monsters. Her daughter saw a boogy man on the tv or in a story book and from that day she was scared of monsters. One night the girls mother made up a story that the monster is scared of carrots and if you put a carrot in front of where the monster comes out it won't come into the room. Since the night they did this her daughter was not scared of monsters anymore.



Hope this helps

Karen

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