Do you live with the father of your baby?

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Kim - posted on 04/19/2009

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Gina I went through my parents divorce, but I was 6-7 years old. Your son is only two I think he is young enough that he will adjust and grow up fine and probably not remember it. Good luck.

Gina - posted on 04/19/2009

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No, we have a two year old, andwe were married for 2.5 years and now, we are getting divorced. The man who wanted nothing to do with the daily caretaking of our son now suddenly wants primary custody, does not want to give me spousal support ,etc. I am happier but it is very difficult on our son to go through this huge. I hope he will adjust and grow up to be a happy person.

Amanda - posted on 04/19/2009

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Yes. Together 8 years, married almost 6 years and have two beautiful daughters. You?

Natasha - posted on 04/16/2009

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No, He broke up with me after 7 yrs together in Feb and moved on to someone else and is now living with her after 2 weeks together...yea I'm a little bitter after having been with him for 6 yrs at the time and living apart. I am seeing someone else as well but we do not live together. This is all new to me but I am coping best I can to have other people in my son's life.

Rebecca - posted on 04/14/2009

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Yes ... you?  We are not married but have been together for 7 years and have a 3 year old daughter together. 

Jennifer - posted on 04/13/2009

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Yes, we are getting married sometime this year or next. We have been together off and on for the past 4 years. We weren't together very long before we got pregnant and he's 5 years younger than I am, so we had a lot of bridges to cross and he had a lot of growing up to do. We have lived together off and on during that time and he finally realized just how good things are. Being a single mom is tough, but if it's the right thing to do for your child, you do it and make the best of it.

Angela - posted on 04/12/2009

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no hes not in the picture he was for bout the first 8 months and then decided that he wanted to party and all and everyonce in a while he will call and say he wants custody but then bout a day later he realizes he doesnt want the responsibility and i love my daughter to death and yes i may be only 20 working my way through school and cant remember the last time i saw my friends or had a night alone jsut to relax or the last time i bought myself something or just did something for me but the truth is i dont care becuz she is my everything and i wouldnt want things to be any other way

Jocelyn - posted on 04/11/2009

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yes, we weren't married when we had our son (only together 3 months when i got preg oops lol), but now we are, and expecting another babe in oct!

Melissa - posted on 04/11/2009

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Yes, we have been married for 4 years (July) and have two beautiful babies! Our daughter is almost three and our son is 15 months.

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Quoting Laura:

Nope we lived together for bout 3mths after my son was born. I suffered 2half yrs of domestic abuse and violence finally come to my senses that em and my son deserved better so i ended it. Yet i still get harrassed and threatened over yr lata i am in the process of gettin injunction against him. He doesnt see our son as he lost his temper with him and i dont trust him. But not living with him is the best thing i find it so much easier being on my own and my son is a very happy baby and a mummys boy lol. He sleeps, eats perfect ive done a great job on my own and i know alot of mums who have too.x


Laura...I respect you so much for standing up for yourself and your son...I know how difficult it must be for you.  I am thankful that I didnt go through something as difficult as that with my son's father, but I will be praying for you and your son.  You will raise him right, I am sure of that.  Good Luck with everything and God Bless!

Donna - posted on 03/28/2009

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Quoting Laura:

Nope we lived together for bout 3mths after my son was born. I suffered 2half yrs of domestic abuse and violence finally come to my senses that em and my son deserved better so i ended it. Yet i still get harrassed and threatened over yr lata i am in the process of gettin injunction against him. He doesnt see our son as he lost his temper with him and i dont trust him. But not living with him is the best thing i find it so much easier being on my own and my son is a very happy baby and a mummys boy lol. He sleeps, eats perfect ive done a great job on my own and i know alot of mums who have too.x



You should be so proud of your self!  Way to go, I have no doubt that you are doing a fine job on your own!  Too many women need to realize that they are able to do it on their own, and leave the men that are hurting them and their children!  Power to you!!!

Amanda - posted on 03/26/2009

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Yes and no. My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years and have a 2 year old daughter. I also have a 10 year old son who my husband adopted shortly after we were married. Until I met him it was just me and my son as his father was never involved..paid child support but never saw him. We had a nice little life together though.

Heather - posted on 03/26/2009

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I have been happily married for 3 1/2 years we have a 2 yr old and a baby due in May.  We have been together over 5 years and have been through the ups and downs like any relationship...but children have made us bond like never before.



I have a sister in-law and plenty of friends who are going at it alone.  They are incredible moms.  And do an excellent job.  I wish more men would step up to the plate and at least help with child support.  But I also know some moms that dont go for child support cause they would rather not deal with the father at all.  Props to all of you that are single moms doing everything you can!

Gabrielle - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Abi:

No...he hasnt been involved since i was 5 months pregnant...no phone calls...no money...no nothing...hes not a "deadbeat dad" he just wasnt ready to be a father and i respected that...I've been goin at it alone for almost 2 years now...(with the help of babysitting and emotional assitance from my parents) but my son and i live alone...its difficult...but I'm pretty happy with our life!



Abi, I give you credit for all the hard work you're doing.  I do want to disagree with you about the baby's dad being a  "deadbeat".  Just because he wasn't "ready" to be a father doesn't absolve him of his responsibilities to you and your son.  He doesn't have to be in your lives, but he owes you child support until your son is 18, and you (and your son) have a legal right to it.  What if you weren't ready to be a mom?   You're still paying all the bills for it now.  Just a thought, not a criticism.  I'm sure you're a great mom with a wondeful son.

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Nope we lived together for bout 3mths after my son was born. I suffered 2half yrs of domestic abuse and violence finally come to my senses that em and my son deserved better so i ended it. Yet i still get harrassed and threatened over yr lata i am in the process of gettin injunction against him. He doesnt see our son as he lost his temper with him and i dont trust him. But not living with him is the best thing i find it so much easier being on my own and my son is a very happy baby and a mummys boy lol. He sleeps, eats perfect ive done a great job on my own and i know alot of mums who have too.x

Natalie - posted on 03/26/2009

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I have been with my Fiancee for 4 years we have a 6 month old little boy together! Some of my friends are single mums and they are brilliant on there own, i dont think being a single parent effects the child i think its when both parents are together but unhappy when the children start to get effected! x

Nicole - posted on 03/25/2009

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Yes. We have been married for three years but been together for 6 years. We have three beautiful little girls, 3 yrs old, 1 yr old, and a 7 month old. We have had our fights but what married couple don't. I'm finishing my nursing up and he helps out with the girls although he works third shift, he stills wakes up to watch them until I get home from school. I love him to death and why shouldn't I, he gave me my baby girls. Me and my girls would be lost without him.

Janell - posted on 03/25/2009

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good for you abi, my mom raised me alone, and i remember how hard it was on her-just me being a kid. so hang i there. =)

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No...he hasnt been involved since i was 5 months pregnant...no phone calls...no money...no nothing...hes not a "deadbeat dad" he just wasnt ready to be a father and i respected that...I've been goin at it alone for almost 2 years now...(with the help of babysitting and emotional assitance from my parents) but my son and i live alone...its difficult...but I'm pretty happy with our life!

Gabrielle - posted on 03/24/2009

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Yes, married for 5 years this Friday, actually! Our daughter is 2.5 yrs old.

Janell - posted on 03/24/2009

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yup, weve been together for 6 years,and have 2 daughters, 4 yrs old and 17 months old. theres always rough patches in every relationship,but its getting through them that makes you a stronger couple!

Donna - posted on 03/24/2009

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yes, together for 10 years and married for 4 years.  We have a two year old son and hopefully soon another one on the way.  We have had our share of changes we have had to manage through, however, I choose to make those changes with him.  I could live without him; I just don't want to.  I would rather have someone to spend my life with and I love him.

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Yes, we've been together for over 16 years, married for over 12 yrs. and have a 2yr. old son and daughter on the way any day now. I too would be a mess without him. He is such a good care taker and provider. We're best friends! Thankfully!

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Yes, we have been married for 9 years but together for 13 years. We have a 4 yr old boy and a 2yr old girl. We've had our ups and downs but I would be lost without him.

Stephanie - posted on 03/23/2009

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Yes! We have been married for 4 years, but have been together for almost 10 years. We have one beautiful baby girl that is 16 months old now. We had some trouble connecting right after the baby was born but shortly after got back on track and are better then ever!

Karrie - posted on 03/23/2009

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yes we have been married for almost 6 years and have 3 wonderful children.. our marriage has had its ups and downs.. but i couldn't imagine my life without him

Hannah - posted on 03/23/2009

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Yes, we have three stunning girls 4, 2 and 9 months and have been together for 6 years three of which we have been married for and are still verry much in love. I wouldn't be without him

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