Does anyone have any advice/tips on how to get a toddler to stop biting?

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Depending on why the child is biting, you could try giving him a substitute to bite. My daughter started biting when she got frustrated. We put fabic wristbands on her wrists to bite and reminded her to use her words. Biting could also be because of teething. He is getting any new teeth. Giving him a teether or something else to bite on might help. It could also be to get attention. In this case, a reward chart could be helpful. Everyday he doesnt bite, he gets a sticker or special treat. This is a phase that will pass in time. It is frustrating for all involved. Good luck.

Gwenn - posted on 11/02/2008

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It's a phase and he will grow out of it. My daughter did it for 4 months and always bit out of anger or frustration. We contacted so many on the issue and everyone had a different answer. We tried everything except biting back (which many claimed it worked). What we did was we always said "NO" the minute she bit with a stern voice so that she knew it was wrong and associated the "no" with the biting action. Also if it is out of anger and frustration, divert his attention elsewhere. It helped with us! Hang in there!

Kim - posted on 11/02/2008

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What did you find out?? I have an almost 3 year old and she does it sometimes out of anger to her 1 and a half year old brother and now he is starting to do it.

Kathryn - posted on 11/02/2008

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While biting back works for some it may not work for you. Some children just get more upset when you add pain to frustration. This is something most toddlers go through. Just sternly say no when they do it or put them in time-out. It may not stop the behavior immediately but they will learn its wrong and grow out of it. My son was pretty bad around 18 mos. Now at 2.5 he can communicate very well and the biting has gone.

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Lisa Whechel in her book "Creative Correction" suggested using the paper type mouth cleaner like Lysterine Pocket paks, it is hot enough to get the point across and will not hurt them. Well past a few minutes of the usual mouthwash pain. I have used it and it worked great! My daughter was 2 when we used it and she's 4 now. No need for "hot paper" now. Well, my 6yo is getting sassy and it might need to come out for that!

Kelley - posted on 11/01/2008

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Well probably not the best answer but my Husband and I bit our son back and he doesn't bite any longer.

Ashley - posted on 11/01/2008

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Bite them back - I know it sounds mean, but that's what my mom did, and it worked - she bit us once really hard and we never did it again.



If it's at daycare, that's harder - I'd say try to get them to divert his attention more if they can - like doing fun crafts or letting him play with his favorite toy.... I worked at a daycare with a biter - he was mostly doing it because he was frustrated with something - someone took a toy, someone was in his space, etc. He really liked doing art stuff, so we kept him busy with stamps, color crayons, sorting bins, etc. He did better after that.

Crystal - posted on 10/30/2008

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My son, who will be 2 in December bit another child at his daycare to the point that i could see the bite marks the next day! A couple days later, he went to bite his dad durring his bath, and i stopped him and said if you want to bite, you can bit on this. I handed him the soap, and said it again. "You want to bite? bite the soap." He bit the soap, hated the taste and I haven't heard of him biting since.

Tammy - posted on 10/30/2008

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I think it's mostly for a reaction and of course they will get one...it hurts! When my son bites I don't make a big deal of it and ask him if teeth are for biting. He responds with, "no"...so I ask...well, what are teeth for? And he says, "eating"! It's pretty much worked with hitting and kicking, too. You could give it a try.

Christi - posted on 10/30/2008

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My son would bite when he felt cornered or offended by another kid. He also did it when wrestling with his older brothers. To deter him we were told to put hot sauce in his mouth. Well I couldn't do that b/c I thought it would be too harsh but we used apple cider vinegar instead and it tastes gross but is not harmful. He hasn't bitten anyone since. I also heard tha vanilla can work - when taken all by itself it has a strong - somewhat offensive taste.

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bite him back (without bruising him, that's too hard!). He probably doesn't understand that it hurts people. Worked with both my kids.

Rebecca - posted on 10/30/2008

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Hate to say it, but they will have to outgrow it. It shouldn't last very long. Try to avoid frustating situations.

Cindy - posted on 10/30/2008

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My daughter who is 15 mos. old now, would try and bite me when she was tired. Anticipating the bite and offering a pacifier seemed to work. Eventually she stopped trying to bite me all together.

Susan - posted on 10/30/2008

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Hi. No real tips on how to stop, my second daughter is a biter too. Basically I ignore her as much a possible and remove her and all the attention goes to who is bitten. This way ther is no reward for her even in a negative way. I tend to think alot of it has to do with frustration at not being able to communicate what they want effectively. My oldest just did it with mega tantrums and screaming instead. Hope this helps. Oh yeh always role model the words or actions that should have been said or done instead of the biting

Sarah - posted on 10/29/2008

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My two year old has the same problem. For him it is oral sensory problems. He needs lots of pressure in his mouth. They make special tubing for biters. He loves it! We strung it into a necklace for him. The therapist also suggested giving him chewy candy. Today he was chomping on starburst. Hunter also really likes super spicy foods, is a spitter, and has had speech troubles. He really didn't start talking until about a month ago. With him, you can tell that when he bites, it is because he needs to relieve some pressure in his mouth. Hope this helps some!!

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I mean, I know people tell me it's a phase..and lately he's been asserted his independence more and more...so maybe he is just frustrated that he can't say what he feels??? I guess I was just hoping for a miracle cure to this phase of his development

Rebecca - posted on 10/29/2008

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this sounds weird, and you can't find it on the internet i guess. my husband looked. my cousin was diagnosed with a deep tissue disorder. i do not know the real name for it. when i asked, it was so long ago for her that she forgot. anyway, she bit other kids at church, and no one bit her at home. as a result, the doc said she had the deep tissue disorder. my cousin had to rub her down b/c alexa liked to be touch more aggressively. also, the doc said have the child carry heavy things. just to compare, my cousin rubbed her first daughter down briskly and she said ouch while alexa just stood there and loved the deep tissue massage.

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I don't think it's boredom. Last time he bit someone is was because another toddler accidently sat on his foot...

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Get to the root of the problem....what is causing them to bite. Are they bored? Frustrated because you don't understand what they want? Want attention?

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