dont know how......

Stacey - posted on 04/02/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have 2 boys with 2 seporet fathers my eldist is Harry 3yr 4 in july son of previace relationship and my youngest Marley nearly 8months who is my OH nows son but the thing is i have no idea how to look after my eldist b/c he lives with his dad and i havent seen him in nearly a yr and now im going to be seeing him again hopefully soon im tryin to get access to him at the mo long story and aparently he still isnt potty trained and i have no idea what to do i dont know what he likes or dislikes i realy feel like im goin to mess things up and im trafide from it i realy dont want to mess things up and im terifide hes not goin to benifit from seeing me again im drivin my self mad with this what can i do?
any sugestions. xxx


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Meryl - posted on 04/06/2010




The best thing you can do is trust and believe in yourself. Tell yourself you are a great Mum to your 8 mth old and will be the same with your 3 yr old. Just remember he will be so excited to be with you that you don't have to prove anything to him. Whatever happens in childrens lives they always seem to keep their strong bond with their parents. Don't worry about the potty training just have fun with him. You do not need to begin with a potentially stressful issue. If he is delayed with his toilet training at all then this may be due to past emotional events so just give him time. Have you got the right people to support you? Just being with a confident, together Mum will be benefit enough. Take care. xx

Lady - posted on 04/05/2010




He'll soon let you know what he likes and doesn't like, you're his mummy and love him that's all you need to start with, the rest will soon follow. As for potty training check out the potty training post at the top of Toddler home page where mums are posting some great tips. Good luck!

Khadijah - posted on 04/05/2010




I think that just like with your younger son...everything will come naturally. Once a Mommy, always a Mommy!! Try not to stress yourself and concentrate on the benefits of seeing your son and having him seeing you.

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