Down with binky!

Herna - posted on 05/18/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is now 2 years old and will be starting preschool full-time in a couple weeks. She's been attached to her pacifier since birth, but my husband and I agree that she's just too old to keep wanting it.

We took the steps before she turned 2 to start weaning her from her binky. We made progress as her teachers at her daycare said that she doesn't even ask for it at all. But...as soon as we get home, her binky light goes off and she constantly wants it. We've continued to try to wean her by just not giving it to her, and she will scream like crazy for hours! Just when you think she's over it, she was actually just taking a breather from screaming and starts all over again!

I was wondering if there were any other Moms with toddlers trying to get rid of the pacifier, and if anyone has positive suggestions on further steps to take. Thanks!

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Meagan - posted on 05/22/2011

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I had this same exact problem! lol I stopped using binky clips so she would lose them, and it was constant, and I stopped buying new ones. I threw the old ones out, and let her know "you only have 3 more" and counted down. After she lost the second to last one, I made sure she knew that this was her absolute last binky, so if she lost it, it was going to be gone. She eventually lost it, and when she asked for one I told her she needed to find the one she lost since I had no more. She searched and search, lost interest, and when asking me, I told her the same thing. Eventually, after about a day, when she asked for it, I ignored her question entirely and would talk about something else. Yes she screamed, yes she cried, but I never told her no. After a few days, she pretty much forgot about it, less a couple questions occasionally, and I kept up with the subject changing thing. When she screamed and cried, I ignored it, as hard as it was to do. The first nights are the toughtest, so I had her sleeping with me, and after crying she eventually passed out. She was up and down all night, but eventually it was over. Every now and then I find one and I toss it, or she will find one, use it for maybe 10 minutes, put it down, and leave, to which I snatch it up and toss it, but she has been binky free for about 6 months now. It was tough, but it's possible.

That worked really well for me, but I've read else where doing things like a "binky fairy" where you prep them for when the binky fair comes (shes sort of like the tooth fairy), then making a HUGE deal out of that night when the binky goes on the night stand and the binky fairy takes it, then the next morning, and small treat or toy is in place of the binky, and it's gone!

I dont know if that actually works though. lol Either way, the first method is what I did. Nothing fancy, just a ton of patience, and the ability to ignore and change subjects.... a lot. lol

Ann - posted on 05/19/2011

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A friend cut off the tip end of the pacifier and within a day he didn't want it anymore.

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Louise - posted on 05/21/2011

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You need to remove the dummy during the day and only let her have it at night for sleeping. All three of my kids had a dummy and all three weaned themselves off. My daughter is 2.5 and insists on having her dummy at night although now she only has it in her mouth until she falls asleep and then it drops out and she does not bother withit. Soon she will leave it all together. My sons were the same my eldest did not want his from about 2 and my second son always wanted it with him but did not use it until he was 3. She will wean herself off. As I said restrict it to bed time only from now on she does not need it during the day. In time she will leave it herself and this will be stress free for both you and her.

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