dumb dr?

Jessica - posted on 02/19/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Ok-- trying not to be angry or over-react...

My 16 mos old had a well visit yesterday and his dr asked if he was saying any words yet.

He uses all of his sounds except "p" and does try to copy his father and me. He understands us when we talk to him even in both languages (English and Armenian). When I told his dr that he says mama and dada but doesn't seem to mean anything by them she said "well we'll see how he is next visit but I am a little concerned" WHAT!? All the books say there is a large window for speaking especially if LO walked early (9&half mos). But now I'm worried and trying to push my easy-going boy into saying something- anything. Let me know what youy think... Thanks.


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i too wouldnt worry to much as others had said they seem to focus on one thing over another for you son he rather walk then talk besides boys tend to talk less than girls anyways! dr's can be very rude sometimes the most recent thing i dealt with was they just recently told me that my 3 yr old son is malnurished! i mean come on i try to get him to eat but he eats like a bird and now they have me going to all the special dr's and so far all his tests have come back normal but that was a huge blow to me when they actually had the gaull to tell me that they thought my son was malnurished! ugh.. so i say just be a good mom like you have been and your son will talk when your son wants to talk and no dr is going to change that!

Bethany - posted on 02/22/2009




I wouldn't worry. My son was 2 in December and he is just barely talking. He just communicates other ways. Older siblings make a difference too, my son has three older brothers who talk for him. I think your child will be fine. There is a time to worry, but I don't think that time is at 16 months. The two languages would put talking a little behind too, but once he starts he'll be great. I think it's awesome that your teaching two languages. Go with your gut, you know more than the doctor does. Sad to say, but true. Good luck!

Dawn - posted on 02/22/2009




I agree that your child is still young.  My daughter is 2 and is finally talking a lot clearer and putting words together.  I wouldn't worry about it.  And besides I've heard that children that are exposed to more than 1 language can be a little slower at actually talking, BUT it's a GOOD thing because they are sponges when little and if understanding then you are good.  One day they'll just blurt something out and surprise you.  Don't stress:-)

Nikki - posted on 02/22/2009




Does he have older siblings? If he does he may not talk until almost 2. PLUS all studies on children living in homes where they are learning more than one language at a time show they tend to talk later. I wouldnt worry about it too much!

Maureen - posted on 02/21/2009




Don't worry. My dr was wanting my daughter to say five words beyond mom and dad at the 18 month checkup. She barely got it. She is now five and won't stop talking. She often stated that her mouth would not work (when she was trying to tell us something). My brother didn't start talking until almost 4 years old. He'll talk when he is ready.

Elizabeth - posted on 02/20/2009




Hi Jessica,

It's always infuriating when someone, even a doctor, tells you that your child may not be on the right track.  But at the end of the day, all kids walk and talk!  I have friends who's child can talk up a storm at 11 months old and then there are the 2 year olds walking around and saying no more than mama.  And since you say he walked early that usually means the physical development is being worked on.  My daughter didn't walk until she was 15 months but she did talk.  I think their brains focus on one or the other.

As long as you're reading to him and continually talking to him, his vocabulary will come!  Don't worry!

Tanya Bauer - posted on 02/19/2009




I'm not going to say to not listen to your dr. but there is a very big window and 16 months is early to be saying a lot of words. Just keep talking to your child in both languages telling him what is going on and such. My little girl had a few words but she didn't have a big vocabulary until she was around 18 months. She had over 50 words then. I wouldn't push. I am 1/4 Armenian (my mom's mom) and I am jealous...I would love to know how to speak it! 

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