. Everyone says put him in his crib and he will fall asleep eventually, but my child is different. he'll stay up all night in there... please help

Samantha - posted on 12/13/2008 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my son just turned one and he still sleeps with me.... just wondering what the best way to break him of that habit is. Everyone says him in his crib and he will fall asleep eventually, but my child is different. he'll stay up all night in there... please

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MY SON IS SORTA THE SAME WAY HE WON'T SLEEP IN HIS BED SO WE GOT HIM TO FALL ASLEEP ON THE COUCH THEN CARRIED HIM TO HIS BED !.. SEEMED TO WORK FOR THE TIME BEING .

Amanda - posted on 12/15/2008

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It's all about consistency and routine. Start a bedtime routine. Where the same things happen before bed every night. For example. We eat supper, then it's play time, read books (wind down) and then my daughter has a bath and pj's and then bedtime. We try and make this the same routine every single night no matter if it's weekend or weekday. You have to stick to the routine as much as possible.

I used to have to rock her to sleep all the time, then at 10 months old is when I started just putting her to bed. So we do the routine, we go to bed, I put her in crib and I walked away. She would cry and cry and cry and cry. I wait 5 minutes go in. Sing, calm her down, etc...BUT I NEVER picked her up. She would calm down. I walk out of room. She would cry cry cry HAHA I just kept doing it. Eventually she fell asleep. First few nights will be REALLY hard. But keep at it. And within no time, you'll say ok it's night night time and he'll just go right to his bed :) That's what she does now for the past 8 months it's great.

User - posted on 12/14/2008

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Both of my kids (4 & 19mo) slept w/us...when moving them to their own beds we gradually did it...laid on the bed w/them...sat in their room...and also got them both their own stuffed animal to "love" on when they went to sleep. They still may wonder in at night, but basically they will stay in their own beds. I'm going to add one thing that I didn't see yet, remember, they are only little once and you have to do what works for you and your family...so don't feel bad if your little one wants to snuggle...eventually they won't anymore...

Sarah - posted on 12/13/2008

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My son was very easy to wean into his own bed, but my best friend had a harder time. She put a few toys in his bed with him. Things he can't hurt himself with...soft books, a stuffe animal, a car he can't tear apart, etc. Then she put him to bed an hour early.



He would play until he concked out.



I thought she was brilliant so I introduced toys. It keeps my guy occupied in the morning long enough for me to shower or make breakfast.



I totally agree, 100% with starting at naptime. If he knows his bed is for sleeping, he will figure it out for bedtime.

Katie - posted on 12/13/2008

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All my children have slept with me. Start by making nap time in their room so they are able to associate their crib with sleep. Also try playing with them in their room during the day so see their room as "not scary."

Nancy - posted on 12/13/2008

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my son was the same way when he was smaller and I just couldn't let him lay there and cry. Needless to say, he ended up in the bed with us when he was old enough to raise up his head and I wasnt as afraid of him suffocating or anything. I then got him a toddler bed and put it beside of my bed and he had a hard time going to sleep in it so I would get him to sleep and then put him in it but he would an still wakes up through the night and gets in my bed. I figure he is only a baby once and one day he will decide to sleep on his own so I am not worried about it now.

Christina - posted on 12/13/2008

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Since you have been co-sleeping for a year. . . I would recommend reading Dr. Sears' Sleep Book. He is pro co-sleeping but also addresses the issue of weaning them from your bed. Suggestions like letting them sleep on a little "bed" (or sleeping bag or whatever) near your bed. The key is for them to know that you are still there for them during the night even if you aren't touching. At least that's his approach. Not sure I buy it 100%, but some of his advice would probably be very helpful for your situation.

Lindy - posted on 12/13/2008

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I found the best was is putting him in his crib tell him good night give kisses and loves, then put a chair next to the crib about 5-10 feet away. Don't talk to him, just sit quietly, maybe read a magazine or listen to music. After about 10-15 minutes leave the room, if he cries, wait about 2-5 minutes then go back and repeat. Tell him you love him and it is time to go to sleep, sit for 10-15 minutes, then leave. He will eventually tire himself and fall asleep.
You really have to be patient! It may take 1-2 hours the first time, my son took about 1.5 hours the first night. Then it gets easier. The second night stay for 5-10 minutes in the room then come back in 3-6 minutes if he continues to cry. Then then next night only stay for about 5 minutes, come back in 5-10 minutes. Each night make less time that you spend next to him, you can even move your chair closer and closer to the door so you aren't right next to him.
It take a lot of patient! But don't get frustrated, it usually only takes 3-4 days for a baby to learn a new routine and you will be greatful after you took the time do to this.
When you go back into the room do NOT pick him up just give him a hug and kiss and reassure him that you are there and you will always be there for him and that you aren't far. I hope this helps- It did for me after about 3 days he was falling asleep when I layed him in his crib, making my life much easier, as I now have two babes only 17 months apart. GOOD LUCK!

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