everything is my job when it comes to my toddler<i get n help from his father!

Megan - posted on 08/01/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




it was my fault i got pregnant with our toddler jaedon he says i wanted another so its my job to take care of him i mean i do everything!i get no help no sleep either!and here i am 5 months pregnant but he decided that he wanted this one!ido too but u dony get to pick and choose!


Tina - posted on 08/01/2010




wow sweetie sorry to be blunt but sounds like he is a jerk. if he didnt want another baby he should have prevented it. no matter who initially wanted the kid it is up to both parents to take care of the kid. i would sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling


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I have the same problem. Just opposite with the kids. My husband helped out more with the first one. Now, with the second one, the only break I get is if I go to my Mother's house or Sister's house and they take the baby. My oldest is acting out because he has lost a lot of attention that he was used to getting. My husband doesn't understand why because he takes the oldest everywhere that he can with him and they go outside together. He doesn't understand that he needs his Mommy time too. :(

Heather - posted on 08/05/2010




I wouldn't like that at all. Tell him that both of these children are his and to stop being so lazy. He isn't going to help you with this second baby either unless you start putting your foot down now. Don't let him get away with this. It sounds to be like he grew up in a household where his mom did everything and his dad sat back and did whatever the heck he wanted to do. I did pretty much everything when it came to our son until we had our daughter. Then my husband stepped up and finally started doing things and helping me with both children. BUT, you have to tell him that you need his help. Ask him to change your daughter's diaper so that you can go take a shower, make dinner, etc. Make him read to and play with HIS baby girl. Leave them alone together and go to the store for an hour, or to Starbucks! Make him be a father and make her interact with her. That's not fair to your daughter, your husband helped make him too. I would love to talk to your husband about this... This just isn't cool.

Colleen - posted on 08/04/2010




You need to have a talk with him for sure. God decided you were going to be pregnant, not just you or him. This man needs to know that no matter, he is the father, and with that comes responsibility. Remind him that some day this child will be old enough to realize his/her father does not care for him/her and then he will have to live with the fact there is no bond there. If he does not respond after talking with him, kick him to the curb....maybe then you will find someone who will love and support you and your child.
Good Luck

Autumn - posted on 08/04/2010




what a jerk! It takes two to make a baby and two to raise one. I would start rethinking my priorities with this guy.

Amanda - posted on 08/03/2010




I agree with tina, he sounds like a jerk and you need to do some serious talking or thinking...good luck with everything.

Jenny - posted on 08/02/2010




Wow girl I'm sorry to hear about your situation! Unfortunately, I"m in the same situation except I only have one and now the father and I are separated due to the fact that he could not be responsible and care for our child. Try make a list of things of how you feel or try making him care for your first born for a whole day and see how he takes to that.
I always say.. anyone can be labeled as a father, but it takes a real man to put it in use.

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