haw do you get a 3 yrold to stop puting her sellfin danger

Natasha - posted on 11/16/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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my 3 yrold daugter is on a mishun to hert hersellf in the care she removes her belts and climes out of her seat we stop the car and put it back on and go 10 yards and shes got out agen she can unfasen the clasps so we make her walk home with me and my huby drives the others home she then runs in the road and hits kiks and bites and pinches me then runs of screms to the pont peple think im kidnaping her please help

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Walmart has a backpack leash from Jeep that comes in a few different animals. We got my son a lion backpack leash and he absolutely loves it! He is also a little small and the straps are adjustable and then snap in front of them so you don't have to be readjusting every time you put it on. He loves being able to put toys in the backpack although it has very little space for stuff...

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I told my son that he needs to watch out for cars because they are soo much bigger then him & they can squish him, he's currently afraid of parking lots & if he walks w/me 2 get mail he's scared when cars drive by...my husband said I'm going to give him a complex but my sister was hit by a truck walking on the side of the road @ 14 doing nothing wrong just a stupid driver & she's suffering life long injuries 4 it! So I wasn't going 2 play around...

As far as the car seat he complains & I tell him that it is the law and the police will come & take him away for child neglect or give mommy & ticket (depends on my mood & his!) & make me pay lots of $ that means he won't get any presents...we don't get our presents from Santa...so if he wants lots of presents he has to be a good boy & keep buckled, stay n the back seat, turn lights off when he leaves the room, etc. all the things that waste money! And he wants presents so that works pretty well...w/out scaring him like the parking lot anyways :) and I don't have every dang light on in the house to boot!!!

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Natasha - posted on 11/17/2009

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just to clarafy we wer walking on the path in a resadenchal erea on ar way home from scholl she is still in a 5 pont harnis as she is smal for her age she is awer that it is not safe as she screems till her bruther has his bellts on .but she can rech the strap releas clasp that is plased under the cover betwen her legs. she will run in frunt of cars in parkin lots or in the high st she has a lesh and rans but the lesh is to big for he rist the rans work when we can finaly get them on her .

Elizabeth - posted on 11/17/2009

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I agree that if you let her walk, she is getting her way. And for her saftey never let a 3 yr old walk along side the road. Explain to her that if she keeps taking off her belt then she will miss out on a family outing. Have someone come over and watch her while you, husband and others go do something fun (park, movie, friends house , zoo anything). Never let her ride without belt . If it takes 20 times to pull over then so be it. kid safety is first.

Darla - posted on 11/16/2009

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wow that sounds tough, well im no expert i am a first time mom to a terrible two and an 8 month old but i would suggest that when you are in the car with her and she undoes her seatbelt, when you pull over explain to her as simple as you can that she can get hurt really badly and that mommy and daddy love her too much to lose her and thats why everyone in the car must wear the seatbelt, my cousin is 4 just turned 5 and she does the same and my aunty doesnt do anything about it but wheni was there for a visit we were driving and seh undid her belt and i was very honest with her i told her that if she didnt wear her belt and a car or truck hit us she would die, i then asked if she wanted to die and she said no so i then said i dont want you to either so pls sit in your chair and put on your seatbelt, well she did and we had no problems for future rides. this may or may not work but being honest is best.
as for the walks well that hard too i have that problem sometimes with my son he is 2 i tell him if he doesnt walk or be nice i will put him in the stroller (if i dont have one i carry him kicking and screaming, but as parents we need to do what we can to keep them safe and if that means doing what we dont want to well too bad for us, right) or get a leash, im thinking of getting one for my son, my husband does not believe in them but they are cheap at walmart and its worth a try. i dont know if you have tried these already but if not i hope they help. we have sat on the side of the road for like an hr because sedar wouldnt get in his car seat after a side of the road diaper change. but thats what we gotta do when our babies try to teach us to be parents lol

Susan - posted on 11/16/2009

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I have 3 kids and I will agree with Brandi in saying that you need to set her boundaries now! Don't let her do the things that you think are dangerous or not good behavior..if you keep letting her get away with these kinds of things you will have a problem when she gets older and in school...Be firm, don't keep changing your mind..set a rule and stick with it...also make sure she is not scared, is comfortable and is happy. Sometimes bribery works...like if you stay in your seat the whole time we drive..then mommy will play a game with you..or something like that! Try not to use food too much and good luck...need more help. Search your town for help with toddler. Your Dr may have info.

Brandi - posted on 11/16/2009

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Sounds like some serious NO NONSENSE boundaries NEED to be set NOW!!!!! By taking her out of the car and letting her walk, she has gotten away with taking her belt off. Is she in a booster seat??? If so, then it sounds like she needs to be put back in the BABY seat, as she is still acting like a baby. Make her earn the priviledge to be strapped in like a biggie girl. I have a nephew that can get out of the carseat. It turns out that his parents didn't have the belts tight enough, maybe this is the problem. Anyway, you need to be FIRM, CONSISTENT, and let her know you aren't going to take any more of her crap. you're the mom and she's the child and SHE WILL DO AS SHE'S TOLD!!!! Good luck.

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