head banging

April - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




my daughter is almost 1 and she bangs her head all the time.when she gets mad its worse but now she does it for the fun of it and laughs.should i be worried about her doing this?


Geralyn - posted on 03/06/2010




I understand and use planned ignoring for attention-seeking behaviors, but I did not allow my son to bang his head in frustration. I would pick him up and hold him and talk with him because he didn't have the words to express his frustration. While he continued to show frustration at times, he stopped head banging. My soothing him did not make him continue with headbanging for attention. To me, a baby's head is too fragile, and she could easily be injured.

Marcie - posted on 03/04/2010




No, u shouldn't only becaus my niece would do that to, whenever she would get mad she would do it as hard as she could and then keep crying cause she would end up hurting herself.lol, and then she did it for fun to but as long as she is not bruising herself she should be fine. They grow out of it in due time.

Amy - posted on 03/04/2010




My 19mth old does this all the time as a show of displeasure and rebellion! Quite horrifying to poor Mum but sure must be a stage...we can hope. She now knows how much it worries me so does it more! I wouldn't worry, think they just asserting some kind of independance and to see the look on your face.

Michelle - posted on 03/03/2010




My son does this too! He's 17 months now and has been doing since before his first birthday. It used to be all the time that he was not being held/played with. Now it's when he's tired in his crib or I'm in the shower in the morning and he's upset that I'm busy. I asked the pediatrician and he said that as long as it's not actually doing damage to not worry. It's a phase, just like thumb sucking or eating dog food. If it's hard enough to hurt her then she won't keep doing it. If you don't notice swelling or bruising then let her vent some energy and/or anger. After all, she's too young to cuss or speed off in a car when she's mad so what's left but some good old head banging? lol

Debanie - posted on 03/03/2010




i agree with terha. my daughter did the same thing around age one, until one day she just stopped. i think they suddenly realise it doesn't get them anywhere and it HURTS! don't be too worried, it's just a phase :)


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Joanne - posted on 03/13/2010




Not only does my 18 month old bang and smack his head but he also bites his own fingers. Some say it is frustration but even when his mood is ok he does this, could he just be looking for attention??

Cara - posted on 03/13/2010




My daughter who is two does the same thing I was told by her therapist that she has for developmental to put her in a bear hug and love her if you feel if she is going to harm herself

Hush - posted on 03/12/2010




I also got told that at this age there bones a density is thickening which is causing them to head bang as they don't have the words to explain.
Another told me that the head is constantly reshaping due to the coming teeth which causes the headaches.
All in all ive put matress around the walls to protect them. I also found she stomps the walls or our chests with her feet was informed its the growing pains and density.

Angela - posted on 03/05/2010




my son bangs his head all the time when he gets mad.. i just ignore it and he seems to stop when he realizes that he's not getting the attention that he wants.. i wouldn't worry about it.. but hey, if your really worried, talk to ur pediatrition..

Terha - posted on 03/03/2010




i know how your feeling my son is 2 now and he banged his head when he was mad and really hard to he hasnt done it for almost a year now he just stoped doing it one day. i dont think you should be to worried. i dont know if i helped you at all but i hope the best.

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