headbanging

Camille - posted on 09/19/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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hey moms does anyone have a problem with their kids banging their heads on anything. (walls, floors, doors, entertainment center doors) My 16 month old son like to do this. Is it normal? Why does he even do it. When I tell him no and take him somewhere else to play with something he will do it again later.

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Melanie - posted on 09/24/2009

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my oldest son does this all thetime especially in hiscar seat he is 2years oldhis 11 month old brother has now started copying this,myhealth visitor has suggested i ignore this behaviour as its to get attention

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my oldest did that and it was hard to deal with, but he did grow out of it. I think it was becuase we just had a little boy at the time.

Erica - posted on 09/24/2009

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Quoting Andrea:

Please don't think I am being a downer but won't that mean your teaching him to bang his head every time he wants you.??????



No. I can see where you may draw that conclusion but maybe it's one of those "you had to be there" situations to really grasp it. I did not draw a lot of attention to the fact that he was banging his head on the wall so much as I just distracted him from doing it by playing with him or leading him away from the wall. He actually only did this a few times.  It is not as if he was throwing a fit and I reacted.  But all is well, so it worked for me...

Brooke - posted on 09/22/2009

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My 17-month old son bangs his head a lot too, and he has been for several months. I was concerned and asked my pediatrician about it. He said that it is an attention seeking behavior and to ignore it. But, like Lauren's daughter, my son just keeps doing it and does it harder when I ignore him. My pediatrician assured me that he cannot bang it hard enough to really hurt himself, but I still worry. I usually firmly tell him no and hug him, because he is usually crying because his head hurts. He stops for then, but will do it again later. I am hoping it is just something he will out-grow soon!

Laura - posted on 09/22/2009

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my son did that at the same age and i asked the doctor and from the doctors advice, She had said just ignore him he'll not only grow out of it but, will eventually hurt himself enough to want to stop doing it all together.

Susan - posted on 09/22/2009

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My son does this same thing, he started around 16 months, and now at 20 months it still going on. He does it when he wants something he can't have or something doesn't go his way. I've tried everything. If I ignor him, he banged his head for 45 straight minutes until he had bruises and knots on his head. So I don't ignor anymore. I've tired swatting him on the behind, but doesn't seem to do anygood. Time outs work the best I find, so I will continue this. By the time he gets out of time out, he's over whatever it was he was mad about in the first place and he moves on. But I wouldn't worry, it does seem to be normal. But always bring it up to his doc on the next visit.

Jennifer - posted on 09/21/2009

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my son does the same. im not sure if its just a fit. but i work with people who are adults but they have the minds of 2yr olds. and they will bang their heads out of frustration because they are unsure how to express themselves.

Adele - posted on 09/21/2009

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My 22 month old son does it when he has a tantrum or when doesn`t get his own way. But luckily he doesn`t do the head banging as much he`s changed it 2 throwing things instead.

Stephanie - posted on 09/20/2009

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My little boy is 3 now, but yes I had the same problem... I just let him do it... He had bruises on his head, and I swear everyone thought I was beating him... I would tell him no, and he would do it just because he thought it was funny.... I just had to let him do it... My mom told me that he would do it until it hurt or until he grew out of it whichever came first...

Lauren - posted on 09/20/2009

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i don't spank my daughter either..she doesn't understand and she hit my husband back when he did so we decided not to use that kind of discipline. my husband grew up in nigeria and they say spare the rod spoil the child. i am american and don't agree with him so i'm very glad his way backfired on him! she really hates the time out so it's been a good way of getting her to stop naughty behaviors. it's a hard stage to go through i hope it gets better for you soon!

Camille - posted on 09/20/2009

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Hi Lauren that is when he does it when he gets mad or most the time he just thinks its funny. I just started the whole time out deal because I do not spank my kids I have 16 month old b/g twins.

Lauren - posted on 09/20/2009

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my daughter is 2 and bangs her head on stuff when she is mad..like when i tell her no. i put her in time out for doing it. i tried to ignore her but she only hits her head harder. i don't want her to hurt herself i mean she cracks her head into the floor, the fridge, whatever is around her. we are still working on it i am just going to keep trying the time out thing. she started it about 2-3 months ago but it is happening less now.

Camille - posted on 09/20/2009

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well andrea seeing how they have my attention all day long I dont see that being the problem so I would not be teaching him to bang is head.

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My son has done this since he was able to crawl! He's nearly 2, now, and is slowly but surely growing out of it. My sons father swatted him for doing it, but wasn't consistent at all. So much for that! I would swat him at times, hold him down at time- to prevent him from doing it, and ignore him. When I became consistent with ignoring him, he improved. By ignoring him, I mean leaving the room whenever he does it. Don't look at him, speak to him, etc. It really is an attn. thing. If they get none, it will cease. Even better, if you and any other caretakers would handle the situation in the same way. Good luck to you.

Andrea - posted on 09/19/2009

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Please don't think I am being a downer but won't that mean your teaching him to bang his head every time he wants you.??????

Erica - posted on 09/19/2009

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My son does this too when he is frustrated or wants attention from me. I have found that if I just stop what I am doing and come play for a while he will stop too.

Andrea - posted on 09/19/2009

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I Don't think this is anything to stress about as both my kids did it around 13-14mths it lasted about six mths as long as long as he is not really bagging it hard as I have heard of really bad stories (which I shall not share) but I am sure it is just a passing faze.

Samantha - posted on 09/19/2009

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My oldest did thi around 18 months to 2 yrs of age. It went on for about 6 months, but he grew out of it. He never did any serious harm to himself, but it was concerning.

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