Melanie - posted on 04/22/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son was my first child and i spoiled him alot....when he was a baby he had bad breathing i always wanted him with he has been sleeping with me for the last little bit....i tried everything to keep him in his own bed.....but he is always upset thinking im going to leave him......What do I do


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Rainy - posted on 04/29/2009




My husband and I both have to travel for work periodically, so our daughter does the same thing... She wants to sleep with us and is afraid we will leave. Usually if one of us is gone, the other will let her sleep with 'm in our bed (but not when were both home). It starts a pattern, but we like the cuddle time when there is a missing parent for a few days. What we end up doing to break it is a little time consuming, but it works!

We take her in her room and read a couple books, turn out the light and then sit on the floor and rock her in my lap and sing to her... when she is relaxed 'enough' then I put her in her bed and tell her how much I love her and that no one is leaving--we will all be here in the morning when she wakes up (and rub her back for a second if she needs it). It's usually enough to get her to sleep. Sometimes this can take 30-45 Minutes (other times it only takes 5-10). Don't get me wrong, I don't do this EVERY night, but she will go thru spells where it's worse than other times... it's also useful to time yourself and progressively shorten the time that you hold/rock--it helps to get back to the norm faster. I usually only have to do this for 2 weeks tops and were back to reading a book and hugs and kisses to go to sleep.

Good Luck!

Megan - posted on 04/27/2009




My stepdaughter had a hard time cooping with this as well. But what I finally had to do was just let her cry. Like someone else said as long as it doesn't cause anymore breathing problems. But my husband and I would lay with her until she fell asleep but she would only wake up expecting us to be there and come to our room in the middle of the night. But if that were to happen I would pick her up not say a word to her and take her and put her right back in her bed and she would fall asleep. We still have trouble with her because she is a little spoiled lol she just doesn't like the idea of having to go to bed but She lays there and yes she does pitch a fit but she finally goes to sleep and if he tries coming out of the room just do what I did pick him up and take him back in there and let him lay there and eventually he will give it up.

Natalie - posted on 04/23/2009




I agree.....and remember that unless the crying is going to aggrivate his breathing issues, sometimes it's ok to let him cry for a few minutes before coming in to comfort him....also, try not to take him out of his bed when you go into his room to comfort him. He will get used to it, I promise.

Debbie - posted on 04/23/2009




Try putting him in his own bed with you staying in there with him until he falls asleep This might take awhile but be patient and after some time he should get use to his own bed.

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