help for potty training my 2 yr old daughter

Danica - posted on 05/22/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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my daughter well be 2.5 in aug.. i want to start potty training her soon. we started once before and she did good for a while but then started to go backwards and didnt want to do it any more... so i stopped i didnt want to force her! and now she is older i wanna start maybe this fall... she tell me mamma poo poo when ever she poops in her diaper but doesnt tellme when she pees or before she has to go. its always after that she tells me. i figure at least its step in the right direction, but i dont know really what to do or how to get her excited about it. so i am lookin for some help and some tips on how to get her motivated and excited about being a big girl.. and also some jsut for potty training in general.

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Carrie - posted on 08/16/2009

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My little one isn’t potty trained yet but I as a preschool teacher I have has to deal with potty training in various stages. You are absolutely right to slow down if your child is resistant. There comes a point though where you need to remember that readiness is not only based on willingness but ability as well.
As some have said, pull-ups are too much like diapers. It takes away the child being able to recognize the downside of going in their pants. Some now have stuff in them so the child has a cold sensation when they pee in them (which in my opinion makes me question what the heck is against my child's skin...). Sure this solves the issue of the child not knowing, however you as the parent don't know until it is too late. Potty training is the parent teaching their child that pee and poop go into the potty and if you aren't able to point out that "Oh sweetie, when our body tells us we need to pee, we need to go to the potty." Pull-ups won’t allow you to do that until you change them. Reminding them of the goal but not chastising them for forgetting to go to the potty. Avoid sayign things like "Why didn't you go to the bathroom? Why didn't you tell me?" As frustrating as it can be, comments like that only shame the child and that won't help them to be potty trained any faster. The easy on/off clothing is a must – sweatpants, leggings, dresses all the way. No buttons, snaps, zippers, overalls - at least not for awhile. Gerber does make the thick training underwear. It can be hard to find them in stores so I suggest looking online. Best of luck!

Joyce - posted on 08/15/2009

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You might want to try things such as a sticker chart for each time she successfully uses the potty. Kids love praise so make sure to make it a big deal when she does goes potty. I worked at a preschool with 2 year olds and most of them just really loved it when you would make a big deal out of the whole thing from them sitting on the potty to actually going. Another idea is to take her to the store and let her pick out her own big girl underpants. Videos and storybooks about the potty help too. All kids are different so different ideas work on different children but just keep trying until you find the ones that work for her and she'll start having it down in no time. A big thing for you though is just not to let yourself get frustrated...its so easy to get aggravated when they have accidents but just keep a positive outlook and know this time shall pass....good luck!

Ann-Marie - posted on 08/15/2009

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I started potty training my 22 month old on 8/7. We dedicate days to potty training. I don't go anywhere. I push fluids and have him sit on the potty every 20 minutes after 1 hour of drinking has passed. We use a timer that goes off and we make a production out of it. He gets a sticker to put on the chart every time he pees in the potty. At first he peed by accident but still got the sticker. He also gets to empty his peepee into the big potty and flush. Two days ago he told me he had to go but I missed it. I was preoccupied...I wish I got it. Yesterday he told me he went in the potty and he did. Today he told me while he was going. These are all mile posts. Befor I know it, he will be sitting on the potty by himself. Others have used small treats as rewards (one M&M) We use big boy cloth training pants and nothing else - no clothes at home. He knows that he has just wet his pants and wants to take it off. Warning, be ready with the hand vac if you have rugs. Pull ups have not worked for me since he doesn't mind the "cold feel". I might try easy ups for traveling because it suppose to "feel wetness". The biggest help was to put him on the potty as soon as he wakes up in the morning or right after a nap. My son has 11 stickers now.

Louise - posted on 08/15/2009

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Stop putting her nappies on and let her run about the house with big girl knicker's on. Leave a potty aroung the house and let her get used to seeing it. Eventually she'll start sitting on it and the rest will follow! My daughter is 2.5 and has been out of nappy's for 8 months now.

Danica - posted on 08/14/2009

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thanks everyone for your help! i decided, well my mom decided that we should start potty training her one random day...a few months back. nini (my mom izzy grandma) bought her some undies and a big bag of m&ms she learned real quick that if she didnt go she didnt get a treat...if she went she got a treat..she has done very well! for a while she wouldnt tell me when she had to go but pretty much everytime i put her on the potty she would go.. we went through alot of laundry for a lil bit. now she hardley ever has an accident and is starting to tell me when she has to go.. the next challenge is getting herto not qwet the bed when she doesnt have a diaper on... she is undies all day though.... and does great!

Amanda - posted on 05/23/2009

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For some reason my first reply didn't go through so if you get 2 from me, I'm sorry. My son turned 2 in August and I was due in March. I was determined to not have two in diapers. His favorite candy was M&Ms so I got a candy dispenser and filled it with M&Ms and every time he tried or peed he got a few and if he pooped he got a whole hand full, and at Christmas time I put mini candy canes under the bathroom sink and he would get one of those if he went. He was potty trained before Christmas and weened himself off candy himself. He just got to the point where he wouldn't ask for them anymore and would just go to the bathroom. It is now May and everything is going great. He has only had a few accidents and it was when there was a lot going on and he wasn't paying attention. I wasn't above bribery if it got him potty trained!!!

Shannon - posted on 05/23/2009

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Definately stay away from pull ups. They are too similar to diapers. My daughter did much better with the "old fashioned" training pants. They are like underwear only heavier with thicker padding in the crotch area. I would dress her in dresses and the training pants and we would spend a lot of time outside on the deck. That way if she had an accident it was easily hosed off. She peed in her "panties" a few times. She decided she definately did not like the way it felt. It only took a few times of having sloppy undies for her to decide that the potty was much better! She was able to associate the feeling of needing to go that preceeds actually urinating. It really helped her...and me too. How do you explain the "urge to go" to a 2 year old? Good luck!

Karyn - posted on 05/23/2009

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I tried at about the same age with my daughter and it was the same way she did good for awhile and then stopped. She was 3 and 4months before she really got interested again. I tried pull ups and she would tell me after she would go and want to be changed. I saw them to be too much like diapers and switched to underwear. If they don't like their pull up or diaper wet, they learn pretty quick when it's wet underwear and clothes. Just keep trying by putting her on the potty when you go and even having her go every 45 minutes or so to try on her own. Every kid is different so try different methods. My daughter was really late and still isn't fully day trained and starts school in the fall, but she is almost there and I was worried when it would happen. Be patient and give lots of praise when they do go potty and when they have accidents don't get made reassure them that it's part of learning.

Renee - posted on 05/22/2009

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I never let go around butt naked cuz I worry about them sitting down and getting germs and who knows whatelse up inside...

Renee - posted on 05/22/2009

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I potty trained my daughter at that age. I did it in summer cuz she could wear less clothes without getting cold. We went straight to undies and did a LOT of laundry. I gave her a small treat (1m&m, marshmellow, or something like that) everytime that she tried to use the toilet. If she did pee or poop, she'd get more than one. I rewarded her everytime she tried, even if she tried ten times i an hour. It kept her motivated and not being too dissappointed if she didn't do anything. As she got better, I cut back treats. Now I give her a small marshmellow every time she does the whole process by herself (wipes, flushes, and hand washing included). She is 3 1/2 and does everything on her own. I will trade a small marshmellow for not wiping a butt any day!

Eileen - posted on 05/22/2009

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Greetings, I say it is summer time and let her run around naked. That's what helped my daughter. I say stay away from Pull ups, they only prolong the process (we used cloth diapers) by keeping her dry. I used jelly bean as treats, 1 for pee and 2 for poop. Good luck

Lyssa - posted on 05/22/2009

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My daughter is 2 yr. Someone once told me let them wear clothes that are easy for them to get off like dresses for girls and sweat pants for boys. If your at home let them run around in their underwear and then when they know they have to go it's easier, if your out always have extra clothes and pull ups try not to let them wera tights or overalls....Make it fun, anytime she is in the restroom with you make a big deal about going potty, this will help with making her want to be a big girl and I found that if you have positive reinforcement thats even better...I give lil m&m's for going potty like a big girl...do what's best for you and your daughter

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