Help!! How do I get our 3 1/2 year old to go to bed on time with her brother?

Wendy - posted on 01/03/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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our son is 7 years old and has no problem on going to bed on time during the week of school BUT, our 3 1/2 year old daughter wants to stay up till midnight and my husband and I dont think that's a good idea because little ones need their sleep and she keeps calling "mommy" every 15 minutes and its getting very tiring :( Can you please give me & my husband some advice on how to deal with this every night? Thankyou!

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Elizabeth - posted on 04/06/2011

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Ignore her. She is doing what works...you must be responding or going to her room....she will learn in 2 or 3 nights that when it is bedtime..she is to go to sleep because calling won't work anymore. If you cannot take listening to it..GO outside.

Mom's and dad's need a break from the kids to be good parents with patience. 8pm at our house is bed time and as much as I love my children I don't want to see them until morning ..unless something is truly wrong.

Michelle - posted on 04/03/2011

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Let her cry or scream or whatever. Have your son sleep somewhere else temporarily and really work on your daughter. 3 1/2 years is getting to old to act like that. She will probably cry, scream, make some sort of noise for a long stretch of time, maybe an hour or more the first few times. Eventually she will get it.



If you live in a place that has other people living close by and don't want to annoy them then you will probably have to do something else. You can try maybe sitting with her until she goes to sleep. The next night sit further away, the next night even further, until you are outside the door. You could also tell her the rules when you lay her down. For instance, I'm going to read to you, tuck you in, and then turn out the light, you need to be quiet and go to sleep. If she starts asking for mommy have her father go into her room if he is home and tell her that she is fine and go to sleep and that mommy is in bed/busy and can't go to her anymore after bedtime. Or something like that. Maybe there is something she doesn't like about her room and needs a night light, maybe soft music playing, maybe when the lights are turned out there is a freaky shadow somewhere and you need to move the object making the shadow. You can also let her look at a book by herself for a little bit and see if that calms her down. That one is a tough call and you might have to try a combination of things.



Good luck and don't despair!

Stacey - posted on 04/02/2011

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My daughter does the same thing. She doesn't get out of her bed anymore, she will just sit there yelling for Mommy (and mommy only) until I come in. She SCREAMS. It can really be the most frustrating thing. It's either a booger, or she has to tell me something.
I'm going to try the "two time" rule and see how that goes. Wish me luck!

Sabra - posted on 01/04/2011

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Be consistent. Make sure she knows the rules that bed is at a certain time (I would try and keep that time for weekdays and weekends just for consistency) Let her know that once she is in bed she can't get up to do anything like get a drink (unless she is potty trained/training because in my opinion potty training trumps sleeping) Make sure to set up a good bed time routine whether it includes a bath and or story or whatever you like just stick to it. Once you have finished the last step of your routine say good night and leave. If she calls your name a second time go in say good night and lay her down. If she says it a third, fourth, fifth, etc go in lay her down and don't say anything. It might take a little while to adjust to everything but she will eventually get the point.

Michelle - posted on 01/03/2011

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Does your daughter sleep in a toddler bed? and do you have a gate? The gate helped me some with my first one. She never tried staying up until midnight but she did try getting up and calling for us. My suggestion is put up a gate, and respond to two calls. Inform her on the second time that mommy and daddy are not going to answer any more calls from her. She may scream a little, and you may have to let her for a short period of time and then go put her back in her bed. She'll eventually stop coming and calling so much. It helped with me, and I hope it helps. I have three children and aside from the youngest, who sometimes retires earlier than his big sisters, they go to bed about the same time (9-9:30). We still use the "two" rule as a guideline for my two eldest (4 and 2 1/2).

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