Help!!! I want my 2 year old to sleep through the night.

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My husband and I are getting tired of putting our 2 year old down for a bedtime. He goes down at 8 pm every night. We have a bedtime routine where my husband and I will both go into his room, sing few songs, say a prayer, and tuck him in. We'll say, "good night," to which he will reply, "bye bye". My husband and I will then leave his room and close the door. He will then start wailing, at first in his bed. Then he will eventually throw his pillows down on the floor and stand by the door and cry. He will sometimes even punch/kick the door as he is crying. We'll wait for about 15 minutes before one of us goes back in the room and put him back to bed. This cycle will repeat itself for at least 4 times. By the end of it, we're all so tired and exhausted that either my son ends up falling asleep (YES!!!!!) or we simply end up bringing him to our bed (Oh, no! Not again!!!)

In addition, even on those nights that we succeed in putting him to bed, he will, without a doubt, wake up at least once in the middle of the night (usually at 3 or 4 am) and does the same thing. Is this a normal part of him growing up? When can we expect him to sleep like a normal human being????

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Amanda - posted on 03/04/2009

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Our daughter does the same thing, so one of us stays in the room with her, sitting at the end of the bed (no room for a chair) until she falls asleep. Sleep books say to never get into the bed with them, but when it's the only thing that works, who really cares what they say, eh?  We are now able to sometimes walk away before she goes to sleep, slowly getting there. We do the same thing through the night, stay until she goes to sleep (she used to wake up 2-5 times a night), but is getting better (we learned about sleep and patterns and have fixed many problems). If it doesn't get better, probably wouldn't hurt to see a doctor, either.



 People might tell you to never bring your child into your bed, the whole "consistancy" thing, but I understand; you have to sleep sometime! My husband and I switched nights; one would sleep and the other would get up with our daughter, then vice versa.. Hopefully some of that helped. Good luck wth finding what works for you :)

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Quoting Tabitha:



We find that a bath, story, and some quiet lullaby or classical music help our toddler wind down for the night.  Our son falls asleep after 5 minutes in the rocking chair with one of us...it's our "special time" due to our crazy schedules.  Once he's down, he's usually out for the night.





So do you rock your child to sleep every night?  I'm sure my son would love that.  Honestly, I have no problem letting him fall asleep on the couch or on myself first then quietly carry him to his room.  But my husband thinks that we'll be spoiling him if we did that and he won't learn how to soothe himself or put himself back to sleep if he (and he will) wakes up in the middle of the night.

Tabitha - posted on 03/03/2009

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We find that a bath, story, and some quiet lullaby or classical music help our toddler wind down for the night.  Our son falls asleep after 5 minutes in the rocking chair with one of us...it's our "special time" due to our crazy schedules.  Once he's down, he's usually out for the night.

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You might check out this link and use some of the tips in there.



We have my son's race car toddler bed at the end of our bed and I think that helps. We bed-shared from 6mo. until almost 2 yrs. We had his race car bed in our room for months prior to him using it though. He would play in it and we'd put him in there after he fell asleep napping. Then just before 2yrs I told my son I needed him to sleep in his bed. I am pregnant w/our 2nd (34w now) and he was kicking me in the back and tummy. So I told him this and said I need you to go to sleep in your bed. He transitioned great. Now, I do still breastfeed (we're doing child-led weaning) and would initially BF him to sleep in his bed. But, it got to where I couldn't get out of his bed, so we moved to nursing first in my bed, then moving him once asleep to his. Now though I really can't stand to nurse for more than 5-10m. So I nurse him, then say, OK time to get in your bed, here is your water, let's get in your bed. So he does, I tuck him in and kiss him, tell him night night. Then I stay in the room with him until he falls alseep. If he fusses, I say, buddy, I am right here, you need to go to sleep now. Sometimes my hubby will lay in his bed w/him and rub his head until he falls back to sleep.

At first he would wake often 1 time in the night. We would just tell him, you're fine, we're right here, your water (sippy cup) is in your bed, time to go back to sleep and he would.

I think what helps is him being in our room with us still and us staying until he's out. We plan to transition him into his own room in a year or two. We figure one thing at a time.



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Best wishes!

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