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Saniyyah - posted on 07/31/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi moms my name is Ayesha. I am a single mom and have a 7 yr old girl Samiyyah and a soon be 12month old son Omari. His birthday will be on the 7th of august. I feel like im going to pull my hair out at this time. Omari is going thru so much rite now. He is teething very badly he has four teeth coming in all at one time, he also into everything thing and his sister really think she always have to be the center of attention over her brother . I make it a point to set aside time for her only but she always feel the need to be the center of all of my attention All the time. I not sure how to really deal with these situation. Or try not to stress over my son difficulties of teething, constantly being told No to all the time please give me any advice.

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Michelle - posted on 08/06/2011

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Your daughter is 7 sit her down and explain to her that babies need a lot of attention and maybe she can help you have her learn to change a diaper or help feed him that sort of thing it will make her feel like she is really helping mommy out. As for the teething try looking up the amber teething necklace I got one for my daughter and it really seemed to help her we didn't have near the upset when the teeth were coming in after she started wearing one.

Louise - posted on 08/01/2011

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Your daughter is going to have to learn to share your time with her brother and the only way to do this is to make a schedule. This way she will know when it is her time to have mummy all to herself. I know it is difficult with a baby in the house but if your daughter knows that she has your full attention at story time then she is less likely to demand attention through out the day. Your daughter is at school during the day normally so you have plenty of time with your son one to one. When she comes home place your son in a play pen or somewhere safe for 15 minutes so that you can give your daughter time to tell you about your day. Do this over a drink and a snack and tell her this is mummy and Ayesha time for 15 minutes. Do not go to the baby if he cries in that time it is only 15 minutes and he will come to no harm. Then she will have story time at bed time where she can talk to you one to one. Once she knows that she will have these times with you she will stop being so demanding of your time during the day. If she does keep up the attention seeking then just remind her to calm down and tell you at mummy and Ayesha time. I know you are setting aside time for her but is it at the same time every day?

Other than that look in your local area for clubs she can join either free or cheaply, in England little girls have Brownies, dance classes, drama clubs, beavers (which is like a unisex version of scouts). If you could defer her attention from you and give her a physical hobby this would help her express herself and give her a new interest. I think this would really help her.

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