help! my 12m old is into biting. I am pretty sure he thinks he is kissing. so how do i correct the behavior with out stopping the love.

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Lauren - posted on 11/23/2008

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i recommend sign language!!! sometime they bite because they don't know the diiference of kissing or biting.... sometime it could be telling you something out of anger or fustrated.

Danielle - posted on 11/23/2008

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thats strange my son is just the same i was going to ask the same thing..... well watever replies you get il read it might help me to xx

Maryn - posted on 11/22/2008

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Oh-Mi-Gosh! This was totally me a few months ago! I thought I was the only one! My son bit when he kissed us! He has a blankie that he bites on and when he is lovey he chews on it. He just transferred the "affection" to us! I was mortified to punish him but scared to get a kiss from him too! I didn't want to ruin his sweetness. He wasn't being "bad" or mean! Sooooooo, it took me a lot of reading to figure out what to do. The best answer is this 1) Tell him immediately, "Owww! That hurts. No bite!" Its sad but be sharp or let them know it hurt, because it does, but it is effective. Don't be fake with them ie; fake crying or something. 2) Put them down immediately! If you really feel like you need to make a point, walk away for a minute. 3) (This one I did after doing the first 2 once or twice.) Pre think the behavior. If they are lovey then remind them ,"No bite, just kisses". It worked great for us! Praise them for being gentle! If they bite, repeat 1 and 2. Good luck!!!



BTW-My son is the best kisser now! He is gentle and sweet. It didn't seem to stop him from wanting to be lovey with us. It just taught him the behavior that was not allowed.



I use the pre-thinking their behavior when my son pets my dogs now. I tell him to "be gentle" and help him pet them gently. They say that saying, "No hit" is hard for them because they hear the word "hit" and want to follow through and/or have already hit the dog. So far so good on the "gentle" teaching too! Good luck. I hope this might help.

Jennifer - posted on 11/21/2008

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My daughter was a biter. She bit most often when she was teething or when she was frustrated. We always tried to catch her in the act, but before she actually completed the bite. If she bit someone, we would say: "Ouch! Biting hurts." Also, there is a book called "Teeth Are Not for Biting". It's a great book. We ready it to our daughter daily and it seemed to help.

Jenney - posted on 11/21/2008

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We had this problem with my son when he was about 18m. He would just walk up and lick or bite us with a goofy grin on his face. It especially happened when he was wrestling with daddy. When it would happen we just looked him in the eye and said "no. that hurts" and would walk away. We didn't punish him or anything, just stopped what he was doing and walked away. Be sure and kiss him often to show him how it feels. Ours doesn't bite anymore, and is full of kisses-esp. for his baby brother.

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