help my 2 and a half year old will not sleep and only gets about 4-5 hrs a night

Lisa - posted on 02/26/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




i'm at my wits end and need to sleep he's so full of energy 24-7 i don't know who to talk to


Karen - posted on 02/26/2011




I would consider food sensitivities/allergies and do some research about that. Perhaps see a naturopath as the have lots of ideas/solutions that a regular GP doesn't consider.


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Nancy - posted on 02/26/2011




What Louise has said is very true. If they are rewarded by getting what they want, the pattern won't change. What time does he go to bed? Maybe try letting him stay up a little later before trying to get him to sleep and also maybe give him a snack before bed so he is not hungry. Of course nothing with sugar, but maybe some dry cereal or animal cookies, then his belly will be full and that won't be an issue. Also, stop giving drinks at least an hour before bed and if it is absolutely necessary for him to have one, give him water. Johnson and Johnson makes a bedtime bath wash that soothes them very well and does help them to sleep better. If there is a tv in the room, maybe leave it on for sound, very low, so he hears it but doesn't think he is alone. I used to have to do this with my daughter either because it was too quiet and she would wake up or the noise of traffic and outside would wake her up. The tv drowned out the noise when necessary and also created some noise when necessary and she would sleep all night. A bedtime routine is always the best thing and within a few days even a week he will be sleeping better and you will be able to. Good luck!! Hope this helps.

Lisa - posted on 02/26/2011




he has a very strict routine as my daughter is autistic so i know how important it is.we don't talk to him and just put him back to bed his bedroom is boring and we remove the toys at night this has been going on for 3 months .he is very active in the day and can be very violent .we have tried everything we can and talked to our gp and health visitor i just can't work it out there is no reason for him not to sleep we even removed all sugar from his diet

Louise - posted on 02/26/2011




Have you established a good night time routine, bath, story bed that you stick to every night? When he does wake up what do you do? If you are going into him and giving him a drink or playing with him or putting him in your bed then he is being rewarded for waking up.

When he wakes you need to seize control of the situation and quite firmly tell him it is night time and time for sleep and lye him down again. Let him moan when you can stand it no more go back in and do not talk to him or give him eye contact lye him down again and leave the room. Try and get some support during the day so you can get some sleep because this habbit will take three nights to break. Eventually your child will learn that there in no point in waking during the night because he gains nothing from it. Also try and cut a day time nap right back to an hour or if you can stop it altogether. This is very important that you sort this sleeping pattern out as the longer you leave him to do this the harder it will be to stop it.

This waking is about control from your child they know that in the middle of the night they can demand anything and you are so tired they are likely to get it. So a touch of tough love is required here. It is not easy to do but I promise you, you will be rewarded with a full nights sleep and a child that is more settled during the day. Good Luck!

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