help, my child bites the teacher....

Emily - posted on 07/12/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




my 3 1/2yr old son, just recently started displaying a biting behavior toward his preschool teachers...never to kids! it didn't happen everyday but within the last week more frequent if he was not compliant with them. he does have an articulation disorder in which he does have a frustrating time getting out what is making him upset or frustrated and has used biting as an outlet. his preschool has since asked him to leave :(. i am at wits end on how to keep him from biting the teacher when he is mad at them. he never displays this behavior outside of school so i don't know how to help him or give advice to assist the teachers in dealing with him. i'm sad he was dismissed as i'm not sure how that helps the child. has anyone else ever had to deal with this or know of anyone? the most I get is he's going through a phase or its natural for that age...i just don't know how long it's going to last for nor do i want to keep enrolling him in different schools because of it?


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User - posted on 07/13/2012




the daycare would claim that if he was doing something he shouldn't be doing (not sharing, being loud, wanted to do what he wanted...etc) all things that most toddlers attempt to do from time to time that they would try and redirect him in which case he became defiant with them and then multiple redirections were tried which apparently only made him more upset and frustrated and thats when the biting would occur...not just to one teach but to any others who also tried to intervene*. i'm not sure if at that point it became more of an attention thing in his eyes or the response he was getting from them after it took place or if he felt ganged up on. i do feel that every little thing he did where he maybe stepped out of line he was instantly targeted...but that could just be the mom in me wanting to protect and defend her child, so i'm trying to be open mined about this and not naive....he starts his new school, this up coming monday and it will be a montessori school with less kids, my fingers are crossed that this biting habit doesn't carry over otherwise...i'm at a loss completely. ---sigh!

Amy - posted on 07/12/2012




I don't know how you would stop it but maybe look at it from a different perspective, if he's only biting the teachers maybe it's because of the way the teacher treat him. Maybe they are too rough with him and this is the defense mechanism he has started using. I would try and find a school who is better equipped to deal with his behaviors, you may have to interview lots of schools before you find the right one for your son. Good luck!

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