Help my son is biting!!!!!

Chasity - posted on 02/23/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My son is 15 months old. when he bits he is not mad or anything it comes from out of the blue. He had already biten three times at church in the nursery and one more time and he gets kicked out for two weeks. He is very affectionate and when he gives me kisses he grabs my hair and kisses me. He is doing this to the other girls his age and biting them instead of kissing. He is just tring to be sweet. I don't know what to do Please Help!!!!

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Serena - posted on 03/01/2010

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I hate to tell you this but its a phase and there is only so much that you can do. My son went through this really bad and we could not figure out why. He did it when he was mad, he did it when he was bored, the cirumstances were always different. He could be teething, like his molars or something are coming in. We tried biting him back and even another kid bit him back at the sitter but it did no good. He just had to grow out of it. You can try when he does do it, pay all your attention to the one that got bit. Just simply tell him don't do that and then fawn all over the girl he bit. Cause at this stage any attention is good attention to them. Good luck I know how hard it is, our sitter almost got her liscense taken away because of it and one mother actually wanted to press charges against our son. I hope you find something that works and if you do let us know cause we have one more coming to that age...

Laura - posted on 02/23/2010

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DO NOT BITE THEM BACK! How can you teach them not to do something when you are doing it to them? My daughter is 22 mos and had a biting problem from about 16mo to 21mo. I was very consistent on timeouts and reading the book, "teeth are not for biting" and eventually she realized it was hurting the other kids. I had a zero tolerance policy on biting and it was an immediate 1 min timeout in an uncomfortable place with nothing to play with. Just keep explaining that biting hurts and it's not acceptable.

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Katherine - posted on 03/06/2010

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I know how u feel. My son who is 3yrs old was into that too. My huddy put stop to that he give him a little pinch where ever he bite him at. After couple times my son have stop all together.

Ashley - posted on 03/06/2010

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i do not agree with biting your child back you are punishing them for ther same thing you just done they see that and what kind of parent bites there child you are purposly causeing them pain and okay with it use time out eventully it will work they are kids dont expect it to work the first time does every thing you do work the first time

Dee - posted on 03/06/2010

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i dont agree wit biting them back tat serves no purpose u need 2 lead by example.i mind tat particular age-group so wat we do is use time-out method and say 2 the child tat its not nice and tat the other child is sad and crying bcaus uv bit them.it can b a phase they go thru wen teething also.but u need 2 express 2 the child tat its not nice 2 bite.good luck.

Geralyn - posted on 03/05/2010

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We call them "love bites" - even though they hurt.. ouch. My son only does it once in a while. Yesterday, he ran up to me after not having seen me for a while, he threw his arms around me and bit my leg. I let out an "Ouch!"... I picked him up and said that hurts mommy.... He's getting the ouch concept... but, I think its like a playful way to interact... not understanding that it causes pain to someone else.



With that said, it is not my opinion that you show them how it feels by biting. I agree with the other posting moms that we actually should use parenting and communication skills to teach, not an eye-for-an-eye approach. Biting a child is not appropriate whether you break the skin or not.



My son grabs my face or neck and kisses me hard sometimes too or pretends that he's going to bite me... It is usually when he is overstimulated from active (very active!) play with daddy.

Kimberly - posted on 03/01/2010

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ok so this is what i did when my daughter who will be three at the end of the month was biting when she was younger...is the first couple times i told her it was bad and not to do it....and then she continued so i bit her back didnt break the skin or nothing but for one she knew i meant business and too now she knew how it felt...some might think that was wrong but i will tell u one thing she hasnt bit anyone in over 2 years......good luck

Angela - posted on 02/26/2010

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I have three kids and they all went through their biting stage. I did the samething that Alicia did I bit them back and it stop it right away.

Laura - posted on 02/23/2010

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That's funny Allison, I tried that and she liked it! Go figure, kids are so weird.

Allison - posted on 02/23/2010

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Try a lemon. If he bites make him bite and lemon it sounds mean but it has helped my son never bit again.

Chantelle - posted on 02/23/2010

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i know this my sound meen but it works.when he bits you, bit him back.not hard but enuff for him to feel it. so he knows is herts.i did this with my son and after abought 3 time he stoped. hope this helped...good luck

Alicia - posted on 02/23/2010

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My daughter is 17 months and she is the same way. I know this sounds mean but when she bites me i bit her back. Not as hard as she does but enough for her to get the pint that it hurts. If that doesn't work try time out. My mom had to do the same thing with my sister when she was little and biting was the only way to get her to stop.

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