HELP - my three year old refuses to do number 2s on the toilet - any suggestions ??

Claire - posted on 09/04/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son turned three a couple of months ago. We managed to crack doing numbers 1s on the potty, which then went on the toilet. He is perfectly comfortable with the toilet for pee, but numbers 2s is a completely different story - he refuses. I have read various pieces of advice and tried them all .... rewards, asking why he doesn't want to, taking toys away if he doesn't, stickers, chocolate, a new toy if he does do one, shouting, sit on the toilet but with the pull-up on, reading stories while he sits there trying ... I mean honestly ... you name it I have tried it (except the suggestion that I make him clean it himself if he does it in the pull-up ... because he is a typical boy and would think that it is a mud sling game). So I am now stumped on how to tackle this. He has even watched friends go on a playdate, but still refuses to do it himself on the toilet. If I leave him with no pull-ups on at home, he will either crap on the floor, or suck it back in until night time when he knows he will get a pull-up for bed ... as he is not dry at night yet. PLEASE HELP ... It is so embarassing, because he is a big three years old ... he was in the 90th percentile as a baby, and is taller than most kids his age ... so when we are out shopping and he does it ... people are probably thinking that I have a four or five year old that still craps in their underpants, because of his height. If anyone has any fabulous suggestions that I haven't tried ... or wonderful words of wisdom ... please do share ... xxxxx

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Angelica - posted on 09/10/2010

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Well, my daughter was the same way!!! when she was three, my husband and I came up with an idea for number 2, when we started potty training my daugther for number one we put water or juice(apple juice) in her potty, sang a silly song, when she did number one, we would take her to the special calendar( made especially for her) so she can put a sticker in it, gave her a high five, and a little toy trophy( which whn she got distracted we take it and use it for the next task number two) at first she would'nt go number two at all, so we had some reese's puff cereal stored, and put some in her potty, and explained to her that it was ok to do number two, on the potty not just number 1, and we showed her the little reese's puff in the potty( well she tought it was poop), she sat on it, we sang our silly song, she made us a sign like she was done, suprisingly when she got up there it was her number two,( the reese's trick actually worked), we did it a couple of times, and then we just stopped putting those reese's puffs in the potty, she didnt missed them, she just went and did number two on her own, hope this works for you, it sure helped us, especially, when she started pre-k twoo weeks later( she started in pre-k at age three)

Chelsea - posted on 09/09/2010

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my aunt just went throuhgt this and i thought her solution was crazy but she put him in underwear instead of pull ups and if she thouhgt he had to go she took off his underwear, he only had a dew accidents in his underwear and instead off going number two on the floor he would run to the bathroom. it is risky but it worked

Shannon - posted on 09/06/2010

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I don't advise punishing him, he will get it when he is ready. they all have different reasons and times for not doing it. But have some patience and use rewards for first attempting then actually doing it. this should be a good happy thing, not something forced..Mom of 3 and grandma!

Claire - posted on 09/05/2010

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Thanks Laura for suggestion ....

I will try that one ... although previously when I have tried to make him sit on the toilet for longer than five minutes, he starts crying and wailing to get off (although that is normally before he has pooped rather than afterwards) ... so I will give that one a go ..
xxx

Laura - posted on 09/04/2010

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a suggestion that really will only work if you have patience and time our daughter is 2 1/2 and had the same problem so when she would poop in her panies i would have her sit on the potty for 20 minutes and tell here every few minutes that we only go poop in the potty after 3 days it sunk in and i have had no problems since

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