Help! My three year old won't sleep....she doesn't nap, and she won't go to sleep before midnight..

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Christina - posted on 10/29/2009

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Thanks for the great advice.....we set up a mattress for her to use as a trampoline, but those other ideas sound fun too! I will work on something for her this weekend....thanks again!

Lynlee - posted on 11/02/2009

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I think watching tv too close to bedtime can have a negative effect on some children's sleeping as it is so stimulating. Try stopping tv watching after say 5pm and just have reading and other quiet activities instead after that time.

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Lorraine - posted on 11/03/2009

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my son is 28 months and has only just started to cut his afternoon sleep out sometimes, i find that if he has a afternoon sleep later he will be awake untill 9.30-- 10 but then sometimes he might not have a sleep but then he will be that tired he would fall asleep at 6 or 7, then he would wake up at 11 or 12 so it can be hard to find what will work but i still like to put him down for a sleep. i only let him sleep for two hours no more and try to have him awake by 4 that way it gives him time to work of the extra energy, then after tea we may go for a walk or just have a play 7pm is bath time i use a drop of lavender oil to calm him then 7.30 we have drawing or puzzle 8 is time for warm milk then 8.15 is story time this is our special time then 8.30 night light on music then sleep, he does get up and play sometimes but he put's himself back to bed after he had a play but if he is making to much noise i keep going in and putting him back to bed and tell him it's sleep time if all else fails try taking her to the pools they love it and it wears them out good luck.

Usha - posted on 11/03/2009

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hummm big problem....no too much sugary stuff....make her play out side more so that she become tired.....at least one to two hours....no tv after 6pm at night.....minimum activities at night.....read books before bed time....thats all i can think of at this moment....may be it can help ....let me know how u r going

Davie - posted on 11/03/2009

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oh dear! lol being 3 is rough :) its all about routine..give him a bed time, this is how i do it with my son, hes 14mths old. he ALWAYS goes to bed @ 7:30..the latest is 8. never later. and his nap time is around 12..i find it best if you put them to bed after lunch..most of the time he goes right to sleep...sometimes he doesnt, i never go back in there to check on him until its gotten quiet..he has a night light too..and thats ok..try to make it relaxing before bed, read her ONE story and tuck her in, i tell my son what we are doing, it seems to help alot, i pick him up and tell him "ok tell everyone night night" and we give sister and daddy kisses, then i go into his room i turn the night light on, and i hug him while we say our prayers, then i tuck him in...rmember just do not give in to her

Marinka - posted on 11/03/2009

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my 3yr hasnt had a day time nap for a yr and wont go to bed by himself now, we give him the choice of going to sleep on the couch if he gets off then he goes to his bed. we turn the light off shut the door (he has a nite light) he carrys on for 10 - 15min then we go in sit with our back towards him, once settled we leave again. some nites after 15mins he is asleep others up to an hr... each time u go in sit further and further away from there bed

Kaye - posted on 11/02/2009

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Hi Christina,

I think getting back into your old routine is vital as you know it worked and worked well. Kids like routine and thrive on knowing what is going to happen in what order each night. I think if you put in a few nights of hard work and find what works for you then she'll be back to settling down without fuss again. I agree with some of the other ladies that getting a child up at the same time each day and putting them to bed at the same time works wonders.

Hope it all goes ok whatever you decide to do

Kaye x

Julie - posted on 11/01/2009

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Don't worry, my almost 3yo skipped his daynap ages ago, lol! I just put him 2 bed anytime between 6pm-7pm. He just plays in his room til he falls asleep. He has this special doorknob thingy on his door, so he can't open door to come out. Once he has fallen asleep, I go in quietly to check on him and turn off his light. He turns it on himself when I leave the room, lol. She'll get to sleep earlier, once she realiuses when you want her to go to bed. Just try do what I do and see what happens.

Denise - posted on 10/28/2009

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I am going through the same thing with my 2 boys 5 & 3 ever since it has not been so nice out side they are not getting enough running time so I set up an obstacle course in our house that they can run around and play with. It is easy to do dining room chairs so they can crawl under, I found a big box and cut it open painted a hop scotch board on it, then find some thing they could jump over my boys love it. Just try to make sure they are wearing them selves out during the day. This time of year kids don't get the exercise they need to get tired at night for bed time. Good luck!

Melanie - posted on 10/28/2009

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I go though this with my 20 month old some night's. i know what your going though but i have to hold her down with my arm's and leg's to keep her from moving and it might take 15 or 20 min's but after all the fighting she does to get up she wears her self out .now at 9:00 she gets in my lap without anything to drink and goes to sleep , try a nice warm bath and fill her little belly up maybe that will help her if not hold her down i know is sounds mean but that is the only thing that works with my daughter when she is fighting her sleep ..good luck

Brandy - posted on 10/28/2009

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I think it's easier if you wake them up early one morning, whatever time you usually get up in the morning, then they will go to sleep earlier that night. Wake her up early for a few days then after that, she should go to sleep on time and wake up on time without you having to wake her up.

Christina - posted on 10/28/2009

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We don't give her caffeine or sugar now...we've cut that out. We let her watch a couple of shows.....and then read a couple of stories in her bed.....she screams and bangs on her bed frame.....I know it's probably a phase....she used to go to bed so easily.....but in the summer we got off routine, and now she just won't go to bed.

Rebecca - posted on 10/28/2009

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no caffeine... and make them go to sleep.. with my daughter i let her watch tv around 8 and watch till 9-930. then i shut the light off and tell her its dark out and its bed time she fusses sometimes but then she goes right to sleep.

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