hi all, i have a 2 1/2 year old that i am trying to toilet train and it is a nightmare. She doesnt like the potty or wearing undies. what other ways could I try, i dont want to push her into it if not ready.


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Dawn - posted on 02/22/2009




thank you for some tips.  I'm trying to train mine too so it was nice to hear some different ideas.

Sandra - posted on 02/22/2009




I'm also going through potty training with my 3yr and 2yr old girls. I think my 3yr old if finally fully potty trained, now we're starting with the other one. One trick that is working for us, is to leave off the diaper all together. Eventually they have to go, sometimes it might not be in the potty. But we say it's okay and show them where the potty is and that is where the mess is supposed to go. My 3yr old has never messed anywhere, but my 2yr old went on a bookshelf of all things. Goodluck, I sure know how stressfull it is.

Sherilyn - posted on 02/22/2009




Oh we also sing a song like pee-pee in the potty!!!  It's funny and he loves it and he sings along and has a good time.  Its cute and it makes it fun for him and I think his interest will build.

Sherilyn - posted on 02/22/2009




I am also potty training a 2 year old and it is tuff.  But I leave the potty and his undies where ever we are.  If we are watching TV in the living room then both are in the livingroom.  My guess is he will put them on when he's ready.  If I push him into it I'm affraid he will reject the idea.  So far it's working.  He will put his undies on when he wants to and he goes potty when he wants to and it's going relatively well.  We have had a couple of accidents but that's not a big deal for me.  I hope this helps. 

Kristi - posted on 02/22/2009




I know what you are going through!! We just finished toilet training our 3yr old but they all are ready at different times . Ive had 3 and all of them trained at different times. The key is don't push or you could be setting yourself up for a very late trainer.

With all my children before I started they  needed  to show me they  were  ready like ( they  didn't  like to feel dirty pants, curious about the potty or what it does..ect ) when you see the interest then without pushing you can begin. I know this is a book but here are a couple tricks I used.

With our first we tried to train at 12m  and we did push "didn't work" she then didn't want anything to do with the potty . She was fully trained at 4  but could have been sooner and this was our trick

 * we had a bowl of sugar free candy and a smile chart

every time she went potty she got a sticker to put on her smile chart / She had to wash her hands to get the sugar free candy . Praise Praise Praise !!! as the training progressed  then we worked this out of the routine and replaced it with more praise . Until she just went  potty without thinking of the reward . Then she was our big girl :)

In the beginning we took her every 2 hrs just to get her familiar with the potty. Then when she was comfortable   we took her only  when she had to.

With our second she was 15m and she  just did it!! she wanted to be like her big sis.

with our third she was 3yrs and she was  a challenge!!

she didn't care about panties .

She didn't care about all the praise.

She just wanted to feel special (different from the other girls)

* So with her we found her trick she liked the Dora fruit gummy and  we bought Dora the explorer "thick cloth panties ' so they were different from her sisters   

So after she used the potty and washed her hands she got a gummy.  We did show her some praise
Yeah Abigail you did it we are so happy!!! clap hands ect.

it took 1wk of taking her potty every 2 hrs . at bed time we took her and took her again at 10 then left her alone all night.

Ok I know I wrote a book but I hope it helps.

*what ever you do don't cave and buy pull ups !! We used cloth all the way when it was time to train . Pull ups to them feel like diapers. at bed time we simply put plastic pants over her cloth panties.

pull ups may work for some but not my girls.

Good Luck

Stacey - posted on 02/22/2009




My lil girl is 3 and i made her sit on the potty just held her legs down till she did sumfing an once she did i made a huge fuss gave her a chocolate an now she on all the time she even sits on there for an hour just watchin cbeebies never get her off haha just give it a try even if they cry will happen soon enuf x

Natalie - posted on 02/22/2009




I think that the best thing is not to push her. She will go when she is ready. A reward or chart when she does go so that she can see what she has done and make a big song and dance when she does also helps.. You may feel a bit silly but it does work. When we where toilet training our daughter we used a chart and made a big song and dance and clapped when she did go to the toilet. She felt special even though at times we felt a bit silly.

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