Hi just wondering if anyone has any tips on toilet training boys? My 21/2yr old son, Noah was going great before xmas asking to go to the toilet and everything but recently has gone backwards. To the point he leaves it till he done a poo then tells us he needs the toilet. It is getting frustrating as his older sister was toilte trained by this age day and night by a couple of months later. Everyone I talk to say boys are harder to train but he is pretty cluey for his age (Well I think So). His child care centre has even said that he is very advanced for his age, I would love to at least have him trained during the day then work on nights. So any advice that anyone can offer me would be great. i have tried pull ups and he just does the same as nappies, waits till he wees or poos then tells us or he says he needs a wee does a little one on the potty/toilet then we put his pull up back on and he finishes his wee in them. I at witts end of what to do. Any help or advice would be much appreciated.

9 Comments

View replies by

Angela - posted on 02/04/2009

1

30

0

Hi Kim....I am the Mom of two boys and I have to agree with the "Boys are harder to train theory".  Both of my guys were hard to train.  I have ready many things that state that boys are slower at learing to potty train because they just don't have the mentality to do it until an older age.  It isn't that they are less smart than a little girl they just have a different mind set.  Just stick with it and be patient he will get it one day!  That's all the advice I can give.  Good Luck!

Koren - posted on 02/04/2009

2

39

0

Hey there. My son did the same thing, he now goes when he needs to and I don't have to ask. But he refuses to go number 2 on the potty. He waits until we put a pull-up on for bed and then goes everytime. I've read to not push anything because it could cause problems in the long run. They would begin to hold it and then in the future as they get older, it would cause bowel and bladder issues. I know that it's frustrating and it's hard, but you just need to let it happen when it's going to happen. It was the hardest thing for me to do, but believe me, letting it go relieved so much stress on myself and my son.

Aggy - posted on 02/04/2009

1

10

0

I had to put my boys in training underwear before they would use the toilet, they just treated the pull ups like a diaper. That helped me, it's a little messier though.

Kim - posted on 02/04/2009

9

12

3

I am currently potty training my 2 1/2 old son and he thought pull-ups were just like diapers. I bought training underwear, they are thicker then regular underwear and they work great. He has been doing really well. The training underwear are a little more money but so worth it cause I no longer need to buy diapers or pull-ups. Training underwear is good too when you go out, you dont have to worry too much about getting a mess everywhere! Good luck and I hope I have helped!!

Belinda - posted on 02/04/2009

1

28

0

I have two boys, one 3 and a 5. Both were trained by 2 1/2. What felt like hell in the beginning only ended up being a couple weeks but felt like months.

I found that consistancy is key.

Keeping on them about having to use the bathroom, and not giving them excess beverages after supper.

I also found the pull ups or nappies a set back every time I put them on.

I found for me that a couple of off and home to spend with only underware on and let them make a mess a few times (not a great thing to clean up if you 2 1/2 which I made them do) they never did it again.

Also left the pottie in a comman area as my bathroom was upstairs and by the time they realized they needed to go and go half way to bathroom it was too late.

hope this helps

Belinda

Kim - posted on 02/04/2009

7

26

0

Thanks for the feedback, I might try putting him in underpants as he knows what the toilet is for and likes to go with anyone else that is going to the toilet. Hopefully this may encourage him. he doesn't like the wet nappy feeling so he knows when he's done a wee.

Tracy-ann - posted on 02/04/2009

54

13

12

i went through this also he would go then suddenly had no more interest.i used food coloring in the toilet so when he woull pee it would change colors.also i got ride of the pull up because he could tell the difference from diaoper to pull up.he figured it was ok to go in it.i just put undewear on him during the day and kept asking if he had to pee.he may have some accidents but that worked for me.also it's a control thing they want to be in control alittle .if these things don't work he may not quite be ready for it.my son is 3 now and fully trained i started at 2 1\2.good luck

Wendy - posted on 02/04/2009

191

3

43

Sorry, I have no advice for you. I have a 2 1/2 year old son that has absolutely no interest in going anywhere near the potty. It is sitting in the bathroom and everytime he goes in there I ask if he would like to go one the potty like mommy does but has no interest in even wanting to know what it is. I'm not overly worried at the moment because I'm just assuming he is not ready. I am, however, interested in hearing the advice of others. Alot of my friends who have boys didn't really get aware with their kids until closer to 3 years old....apparently, boys are alot harder to train.



good luck. :)

Cyndi - posted on 02/04/2009

2

0

1

Hi there. My son did the same thing (only with pees though), it is extremely frustrating. I tried a couple of things (none of which worked - they may work for you though) 1) I would tell him that he made the mess, he had to help clean it up - he would help clean it up but didn't seem to care, 2) Give him the option of wearing big boy underwear or a diaper, if he choose the underwear I would remind him that he has to use the toilet and if he did have an accident it would be into a diaper - this approach also didn't work - he would often choose a diaper out of laziness.

Finally I just basically ignored the fact that he was having "accidents", I would clean up the mess and change him but not make any comments what so ever. When he did use the toilet I would give him a special pee/poop treat (organic cookie). Within a week he started using the toilet again and hardly ever has an accident.

Keep in mind that most people say that boys have a harder time controlling themselves until after three.

I know it's hard but be patient and remember - he's not going to be 5 or 6 and still having accidents.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms