Hitting..And how to stop it!

Courtney - posted on 05/07/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Ok so heres whats going on my son is beginning to have different emotion and behavors at 14 months hes finally getting "His" own personalaty, but this cares me cause recently hes been showing my attitude! But heres the problem..it could be A phase im not sure..My son hits himself in his head when he gets mad or when we tell him no, when he first did this i thought it was b/c he knew if he did something bad he would get his hands smacked. Hes never seen any hitting or agrueing for that matter, But its getting worse at first it was here and there now its every day..when he gets mad, sad, sleepy,and like i said always when we tell him no. It came to the point to where i really dont even smack his hands anymore cause i feel like i taught him this behavior? I dont know its driving me crazy and if i tell him no to stop hitting himself he hits himself again cause like i said its when i tell him no. How do you break this behavior? Its been going on for about 3 weeks..maybe a lil more or less but about 3 weeks. Thanks Moms!

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Ashley - posted on 05/07/2010

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i went through this with my doaughter and i wish i could tell you there was some magic way to stop it when she done it i would just try to hold her and not let her hurt herself and try to talk to her and calm her and everyone would always tell me let her do it she relizes it hurts she will stop and i was not comfortable with that i was afafraid she would hurt herself but she eventually out grew it and you can not blame yourself for him doing it kids do these things you have to use dicipline of some sort or he will not respect you and run over top of you but like i said with my daughter it eventually got better and i am sure with your son it will to know these probally aint much help but i want you to know you are not alone and you can not blame yourself

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Courtney - posted on 05/07/2010

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Thank you so much ashley i actually tried yesterday to hold his hand down and hold him and soothe him just like you said cause thats the only thing i could think of doing..cause like said if i tell him no and smack his hands he continues to do so as well...But when i did hold his hand and talk to him he flipped out i have never seen him take a tantrum like this! I know hes getting older and is going to push my button and try to pull ones over on me. But he flipped out soo bad i felt horrible but i stuck too it for a several minutes id say i held his hands down and talked to him for about 3-4 minutes then he started to cal down a bit but as soon as i let go he did it and i grabbed his hands again he didnt flip out as much the second time but i continued this process through out the evening and he still continued to go right back to hitting himself after id let go then cry then hed run off and do his thing..I dont expect this to work over nite but im like you i cant just let him hit himself cause i am worried that he will hurt himself he is very strong theres time me and my hubby had to hold him down to change him and we arent weak ppl lol. But hes been such an angel up to these past 3 weeks and my sister has 2 boys and she keeps saying its b/c hes experienceing different emotions and dont know how to act out on it..Either way i dont want him to hit himself! lol im glad someone is on the same page and that there is other kids out there who do i think that was one of my biggest fears was that he was one of few who did this..thanks again!

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