HOW CAN I GET MY 9YR AND 6YR OLDS OUT OF A DUMMY ?

JENNIFER - posted on 06/09/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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MY 9 & 6 YRS OLDS STILL HAVE A DUMMY AND I JUST CANT GET THEM TO STOP HAVEING ONE IVE TRIED EVERY THING TO HIDEING THROWING THEM AWAY HELP ?

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Jocelyn - posted on 06/29/2009

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since your kids are older (and i am going to sound like a bitch here, but this is what i would do if nothing else worked and i was at the end of my rope) can you arrange for a sleep over, but plan it so that the other kids will tease your kids? or tell them that the only way they can keep them is if they wear them as a necklace (all day, to school and everything else) i bet you that they will get rid of those dummies right quick!

Samantha - posted on 06/13/2009

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i know a friend that said that santa took it them gave them an extra spec gift,n they preferred th toy over th dummy

Veronica - posted on 06/10/2009

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Unless you really want the 'dummy' gone -- i wouldnt even worry about it! Im going to sound childish here, but i still have a blanket that ive had since i was a little girl -- its still a comfort for me, its really soft and i like to run my fingers on it (kind like some people twirl their hair, or grab their ear, etc.) Im not messed up, im not a baby -- its just my personal thing that I like, its mine. I dont sit there and carry it around the house, and i certainly can sleep without it too - its just a piece that i like to have - when i cry or am frustrated or upset - its a soother for me -- i say whipp-de-ding-dong if they still have them -- maybe just allow them to have it at bedtime but not to carry around or take with them elsewhere -- my children had their favorite lovies and blankies -- but no longer even sleep with them anymore -- so eventually they grow out of it on their own -- just dont make it seem like such a big deal -- its just like when my two olders ones had pacifiers -- I made the big deal to go on the hunt for them when they were lost, and made sure they had them at every moment, bed time, car rides, etc. One day i quit worrying about it, and quit searching for them when they were lost, and that was it, once they were gone they were gone - no more pacifiers.



I just dont think its that big of a deal -- they are only little once, and before you know it they wont want anything from you but MONEY, the car, freedom, etc.



I hope i helped, as contradictory as it may be...

Veronica

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Geralyn - posted on 06/29/2009

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Melissa, what an awesome idea! I also like the idea of Santa taking it. Brilliant!





I understand, too, what Jocelyn is suggesting, although that could totally cause, especially your 9 year old to be ridiculed by many. I was wondering if you could do it on a smaller scale, like invite your 9-year old's best friend to stay over (you are always safe with best friends!). And maybe engage your 9-year-old and his best friend to discuss the dummy and maybe the friend could convince your child to lose the dummy. Then, I suspect that if the cool 9-year-old got rid og the dummy, the 6-year-old may follow... Just a thought....





I also like the idea of donating it to babies who really need them.... Good luck!!!

Melissa - posted on 06/29/2009

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that's ridiculous...

a friend took their then 3 year old to build a bear to get a nukie-bear. they collected all her nuks in a ziploc and brought it with to the store. when the guy asked what the bear was for, the parents told him, and he let the little girl put one of the nuks in the bear when they put the heart in. that way she still had it, but she wasn't sucking on it. granted she was only 3. i don't have any cute age-appropriate ideas for a 9 year old other than to say just get rid of them! they're not going to take your money and buy new ones unless you take them to the store and pay for them! so don't!

Susan - posted on 06/29/2009

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My 2 year old loves his dummy but like the idea of santa taking it away at christmas. Also i have a book about a bear not needing his dummy anymore that might help. Good luck

Janet - posted on 06/28/2009

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Do what i did - chuck them all out and if they ask just lie. Tell them you don't know where they are and what they did with them. After about a week, they won't even know or remember they had them.

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Did I read that right??? A 9 year old and a 6 year old?? How did you let that go on for so long!

I mean no disrespect. If it were me, I would take it away from them. If they buy another one, take that away and say "last warning. Next time you get one, I am telling all your friends you still need a dummy for sleeping".

Cruel I know - but seriously they are old enough for reasoning.

Kellie - posted on 06/27/2009

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I think its time that You Mummy, show them who is boss!!!in all seriousness no is no...stick to it be persistant..be the grumpy mummy..if they get another one take it and throw it away or there is like something people put on there nails to stop biting them that just tastes terrible put some of that on there!!!!also it is terrible for the development of there teeth and jaw and this should be a really big concern..thats why you are going to stick to your guns and show them that mummy means bussiness!!!ha ha hang in there and good luck jennifer.

Rebecca - posted on 06/20/2009

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i would just take away the dummies and not give them back. yes they might have trouble falling asleep for the next few days but a 9 and 6 years old i dont think that they should still have them

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My son had a dummie up to 4 wks ago. He'll be 3 at the end of June. I just took it away cold turkey. He cried for a few nights and had trouble falling asleep but now he is fine. I just lay him down and give him a book to read and in about 15 mins he's asleep. Good luck. Just take it away. It's probably already ruined their teeth.

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2009

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How did you find a soother that will actually fit and soothe your older children? I have never heard of older kids having soothers (what do their friends say?). Are you worried about the teasing and taunting that other kids will do? I'd be concerned about my childs' confidence and how they feel. I'm old school and they would have been thrown out at 2 years of age (if I used them at all) no if, and's, or buts abut it!! Good luck!!

Traci - posted on 06/14/2009

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Those things should have been thrown in the trash 8 and 5 years ago....better late than never!!! ;) Throw them away and do not repurchase them, simple! ;0)

Kelly - posted on 06/12/2009

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are we all forgetting one very important fact??? maybe you should ask your childrens dentist about what you will have to pay up for a new set of teeth for each child! not to mention gum infections/malfunctions, speach pathology, and the list goes on and on!

where you may think it'll be costly to your heart by taking the dummy off your children, you'll soon need to think about your hip pocket and time consuming visits to hospitals/dentists etc in the near future!

Think about all the germs your children are taking in everytime they put that dummy in their mouth! YUK! and as a health care professional and a mother, i think you are silly for allowing that they have their dummy especially at these 'old enough to know better' ages! i think you need to grow up rather than your children, This is attrocious!

Amanda - posted on 06/10/2009

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Quoting Veronica:

Unless you really want the 'dummy' gone -- i wouldnt even worry about it! Im going to sound childish here, but i still have a blanket that ive had since i was a little girl 


 



 



Yes, but your blanket won't cause dental problems.  This doesn't seem like a comfort issue to me - it seems to me that maybe mom might be having a hard time putting her foot down.  That seems the more important issue.  Whose in charge?  It's really important for the kids health (emotional, social, etc) that they understand authority and how to respect it and follow it.  At 9 and 6, if they still have a dummy it sounds to me like maybe - and I emphasize maybe - mom is not stepping up to the plate.  

Rebecca - posted on 06/10/2009

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OK, If ur children are old enough to go to the shop to buy a dummy then they old enough to not have 1... If they persist in havin one then point out that only babies have dummies and thereofre u may not play with friends u will b spoon fed slop and u will wear a nappy!!! Using an old cot sheet with a safety pin so as not to spend money... If u are also PERSISTANT and DO NOT give in they will soon promise to leave it be!!! My best friend did and that's who I went to 4 advice!!!!!!!



Good luck!!

Shay - posted on 06/10/2009

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i have a 3 year old and i tried this at christmas time saying that santa needed the dummies to give to the baby reindeers and if she gave them to him then he would give her whatever she wanted. it was a drum. well santa brought the drum at xmas and for 3 weeks we did no dummy until i couldn't take it anymore of her going to bed at 7pm and still awake and crying at 1130pm. so i have no answers for you, but if you figure it out please let me know.

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2009

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hi ya may b u cud try the fairy but make it a big deal n exciting say that the faires need loads of dummies to make there castle or sumthing n u cud all make a sparkley box 2 gether to put them in at night n for the faires to leave them a gift in return like hair ties or glitter little wands u know sumthing like that. hope this is helpfull good luck

Perla - posted on 06/09/2009

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well I've found out that in some cases it's not so much that our children are attached to things like paci's n lovies. Sometimes we as parents are even more attached than they are to the idea that they have em and we don't realize this. In that case the firts step for children to get rid of a dummy is that mother is ready to let go of the idea that her children are still babies and still need em. Then if mother is ready to let go, the child will most likely let go.

Adf0905 - posted on 06/09/2009

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How will they get to the store to buy new ones? I'd be taking them away ASAP and not letting them buy new ones!

JENNIFER - posted on 06/09/2009

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THANK YOU. KNOWING MY KIDS THEY WILL GO SHOP WITH THE MONEY TO GET A NEW ONE X

Rachel - posted on 06/09/2009

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i went to the doctors the other day saying that he wont eat anything but chips and nuggets and he said " did he go and get it himself? No, then he's manipulating you"...

I wanted to cry but he is right, it's time to just throw them away, tell them that a fairy came and collected them to pass them on to a neady baby but left you some money, and go look under their pillow...



Good luck... and be strong... x

Sian - posted on 06/09/2009

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im sorry but that is ridiculous!! they are more than old enough to sleep without dummie! just take them all away and put your kids to bed.. they may cry but they WILL sleep without it! good luck!

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