how can i get my son to go in his cot awake at night without the screaming?

Laura - posted on 05/22/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




my son will not go into bhis cot awake he has to fall asleep in his push chair how can i stop this without the screaming tantrums?


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Esther - posted on 05/22/2009




Just a note further to my previous post - you will obviously have to find something that works for you & your son. They all have their own individual quirks. And sometimes even a slight adjustment can make a difference. For example, my son has a meltdown if I sit in the chair again when he's in his crib, but if I sit on the floor that's fine. Then, a few weeks into the new routine, he got sick (roseola) and then he wanted me to stand next to the crib instead of sit. Small adjustments but they made a big difference.

Esther - posted on 05/22/2009




You don't HAVE to let them cry at all. I don't believe in letting my son cry and I never have. My son is now almost 17 months old so just a little younger than yours. I used to rock him to sleep in the rocking chair in his room and then put him in his crib. However, the bigger and heavier he got, the harder that became to do so I had to teach him how to fall asleep in his crib on his own. I'm guessing that's where you are now.

My son already had a pretty good bedtime routine, but I made it slightly more elaborate by saying goodnight to all the animals in his room (stuffed & in pictures on the wall). I also put the stuffed animals down on their backs after we say goodnight as if they are going to sleep too. Then I sit in the rocking chair with him (in the dark) to give him one last bottle or sippy of milk. When he's done with that I sit with him quietly a few minutes longer (or I sing a lullaby to him) and then I put him in his crib. At this point he's sleepy, but still awake.

When I put him in the crib I would sit down on the floor next to the crib with my back against it, and from that point on ignore him, unless he cries. No eye contact is critical. He would stand up and pace back and forth behind my back, he would throw pacifiers out of his crib at my head, he would try to pull my hair, he would laugh really loud, he would throw stuffed animals out of his crib etc. etc. Whatever he could think of to get my attention but I would not say anything and would not look at him. If he did cry (for real) I would pick him up, soothe him and put him right back down and start all over.

The first night it took me about 45 minutes before he went down and went to sleep. After about 2 weeks I was down to approx. 15-20 minutes. Now I can put him down and just walk out of the room even if he's still awake. It has made life much easier!

Maria - posted on 05/22/2009




There's probably no way to get them to go to sleep without having a fit, especially when they're not use to it. Just try to make the act of going to bed into a routine (bath, brush teeth, hugs and kisses, bed) and make it enjoyable. After that, you're going to have to let them hollar a while. Sorry, I know it's so hard and heart breaking, but sometimes the only alternative is rocking them to sleep until they're 10 and who wants to do that?

Chris - posted on 05/22/2009




you dont say how old your son is

but you could try playing in his bedroom during the day so he gets used to his room, maybe he doesnt like being alone in the room, so if he sees it as a happy place to be he might settle off.

have to tried sitting in the room with him when he goes to bed? sit in silence and dont look at him, then gradually move further away each night untill u r siitting outside the door.

or let him take a toy or book with him, but nothing that will excite him,

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