How can i get my sons attitude in check?? best way to discipline??

Maggie - posted on 08/23/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son doesn't listen to half the things I tell him.. yeah I understand he's only 2 but there has to be something I can do to get it under control. I try disciplining him but it doesn't seem to phase him that much. He slaps people in the face and thinks its funny. Time out can only work for so long. I decided to try out the 3 time rule. if I have to tell him 3 times to stop or listen, then he gets a punishment. Anything else I should do or try?? HELP!

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Marcy - posted on 08/23/2010

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Maggie you said it yourself, he's 2. Rather than discipline why not work on positive reinforcement. When he hits you or others take his little hands in yours and get down at his level and tell him "We DO NOT hit. if you do it again I am putting away all of your toys, turning of the tv and you can sit on the sofa until you are ready to be a nice boy." Chances are he will do it again and then get down at his level and say "Mommy told you we don't hit, its not nice and now I am putting away all your toys." then pick him up, put him on the sofa so he can see you, turn off the tv and put away all of his toys. Sit across from him and tell him that when he is ready to be a nice boy he can let you know. It will take awhile and chances are the first time it happens he will cry for about half hour. Just keep calm, keep repeating the "action" that he did (i.e. hitting) and then the consequence of his action. You have to stick with this and keep at it......I know it seems long and drawn out but trust me, it does work. You can use this for anything. As long as you follow through. If you are in the store or at the park and he isn't listening and you tell him what he is doing wrong and the consequence then just follow though...be prepared to leave the store or the park and remain calm at all times....good luck.

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Diane - posted on 08/24/2010

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dang you know how many things a 2 yr ols can get into in a bathroom, like putting toothbrushes in a toliet. I also do the 123 method and he knows if I get to 3 he gets a pat on the butt, not hard but it gets the point across.

Dora - posted on 08/23/2010

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I completely agree with Marcy.....PLEASE DO NOT PUT HIM IN A ROOM AND SHUT THE DOOR. That is so cruel. he is only 2 and still learning.

Dora - posted on 08/23/2010

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I have to tell you my son is also 2yrs old. The one thing that I have found to work wonders is the 1-2-3 method. I start at 1 and he immediately stops. He knows if he doesn't stop, I take whatever he is doing away from him. Also I think he follows through because he likes to do things himself. I think it is part of the independence phase. For instance if I tell him to put something away and he doesn't listen, I simply tell him he has 3 seconds and if he doesn't do it then I out it away. I start counting and before I even get to 2 he puts the item away. Also the hitting in the face was a big thing my son as well. I just keep telling him all day long even if he is not doing it "no face". If he tries to do it I grab his hands and just repeat myself. He is starting to now get the hang of that. Teaching him boundaries is a big thing and extremely helpful. I have pointed out to my son over and over again what are his toys and then what are mommies toys. He is NOT allowed to touch mommies toys. Every time he used to try I would stop him, tell him those are mommies toys and then bring his to his toys. I love that because I can now take him to peoples houses and he isn't trying to grab things that don't belong to him.

Marcy - posted on 08/23/2010

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OMG that is a horrible suggestion....that just instills fear in your child. PLEASE, don't shut the door on your child.

Erin - posted on 08/23/2010

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My son doesn't listen either. It's the age. What I do is I only discipline him if he hurts someone. I give him a time out. for 2 minutes (a minute for every year) then he needs to apologise. If he throws a tantrum I try to calmly sit him down and tell him he needs to calm down not as a punishment but to relax and chill out. I'm sure a lot of people would disagree but I really don't think they need more discipline at this age. And I get furious when others try to step in and discipline him.

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