how do i deal with seperation anxiety?

Kassie - posted on 05/18/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my son is 8 months old and he does not want me to leave his sight. i cant go to the toilet, do the washing up or any cleaning. even if i stand up and start to walk away he starts crying. i feel im losing my patience.

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Esther - posted on 05/18/2009

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Have patience - it will pass. My son had that and it's a very normal and healthy thing. Just reassure him and know that he doesn't know any better. You can try playing some peek-a-boo games with him too. That also teaches them that things & people are still there even when he can't see them. But this phase too will pass. Now sometimes my son just wants my husband and I find myself being jealous and wishing he was still that attached to me :))

MELISSA - posted on 05/18/2009

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Kassie,
You are going through a normal transition. Do you nurse? It shows that you give your baby alot of love. Have patience. Anita's suggestion seems to be appropriate.

Anita - posted on 05/18/2009

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oh ..its ok to let him cry when u walk out..as long as u walk back in and dont leave him crying too long...just keep walking in and out..he;ll eventually learn...I leave my 20mth old with my oarents for most of the day on wed and thu and he goes to childcare on fri..half the time he doesnt want to go home when i go and pick him up..:)

Anita - posted on 05/18/2009

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This is very normal Kassie...It took my 20mth old a while to get used to me out of his site or another room and I've always talked and talked and talked to him even when im not in the same room from day one..As far as the baby is concerned if they dont see you it means u are not there at all...I would had to put him in a rocker or high chair when i go to the toilet and leave him where he can see me!!! (yes that ment leaving the loo door open unfortunately) and when i went to have the shower i used to take him in there with me also, give him a chair and he's happy playing while i shower...regardless if ur child understands or not, or whether u thnk they do or not, just keep telling them over and over "its ok, your not left alone, mummys here darling"..if u can leave ur lil babay with someone for a couple of hours or a babysitter for a day it helps too...the younger u "train" them and make them realie mum and dad will always be there or be back then the better..leaving him in childcare for a few hours teaches him that u will always be back for him and that makes it easier when they start school:)

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