how do i discipline a 3 year old?

Che Vicencio- - posted on 03/16/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my 3 year old daughter really gettig on my nerves,she's really stubborn..

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Rebecca - posted on 03/16/2010

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my 3yr old gets a few chances she gets the 3 second count if that dont work she gets her ear pulled then its a smack on the bum then its in the bedroom for a couple of minutes at a time. she used to get to the bedroom every time now i very rarely get to 3 it will take some time but dont give in to her stay strong even when she looks at you with that face that makes you feel guilty.

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Megan - posted on 03/19/2010

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I'll give them to the count of 3 and if they don't behave they have to sit on the naughty chair. it's just a small child sized chair that we place in one corner of the room and face them to the corner. I keep a small timer there and have them sit for a minute per year old they are. so my 3 year old has to sit there for 3 min. I sit him down and tell him why he's being put there and tell him to think about how not to do that again...example.. you're going on time out because you pushed your little brother. I want you to sit here for 3 min and think about how to play nicely.... it works well for my kids...it's ok if they throw a fit as long as they sit in their chair...if they get up calmly place them back on the chair and tell them their time is going to start over every time they get up. try to stay calm and not yell because they feed off of your emotions. 3 is the age where they are going to push you as far as you will let them...

Tiffany - posted on 03/17/2010

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I make punishments depending on the severity. Little things like not listening when I tell him to pick up his blocks (any toy) I tell him if I have to do it The toy goes bye bye for a little while. If he doesn't listen it does and it saves money on toy bc they actually forget you take it and think you got them something new when they deserve a reward give it back. If its something big like hitting, telling me "no" (which happens alot at these ages 2 &3) I sent him to his time out chair which usually turns into a tantrum or a squirm battle you know when they try to get away. S then I have to spank him on the butt only twice at this age one per year of age.

Leigh - posted on 03/17/2010

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Neither of my kids use time out well. My oldest is 5 and when she was 3 she asked " Why do i have to sit in time out when im just going to get up again. Whats the point". So time out doesn't work very well in my house. I thank the most effective things is taking her tv away but then she just screams and has major tempor tanturms an i just let her have them. My 2 year old will sit in time out but hasn't shown affective either. Shes a hard headed child that does things because she thanks its funny so i send her to her room and it usually gets to her. I know im in for it with my both children.

Alisha - posted on 03/17/2010

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First of all it take a lot of work!!! with my children ( 2.5 yrs and 3.5 yrs) i do time outs. If they do something mean its straight into time out, if they aren't listen i tell them they need to listen or they are going into time out (3rd time is time out) If they are playin you need to give them a min as like everyone you don't want to stop right away so give them a min to finish up then if they don't listen its like do this or time out. its hard but you need to get down tp their level and explain yourself to them, you need to stay calm. for time out a mins min per age no more, no less. eye contact when explaining and i get my childrent o repeat what im telling them. Make sure eye conact when they are repeating what you say as i fnd that if they don't give u eye contact they are really listen. Its hard work but will pay of int he end. also the time restarts every time they get out! good luck

Cara - posted on 03/17/2010

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What has worked best for me is standing in time out. The sitting thing just didn't work. Make her stand in a door frame or corner. When she doesn't want to stand there then give a smack on the butt and tell her to put her nose on the wall/door frame. The first couple of times you do that it is a lot of work for you. but after a while all you have to do is say go stand in time out until I tell you you can get out. That works for me hope it helps!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 03/16/2010

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i get help from my husband when she dont listen wen he comes home from work i tell him and he tells her off sometimes i threaten t tell him had she stops straight away she knows when her father says stop it means stop. i found that just another person telling her off for the same thing helps a lot

Che Vicencio- - posted on 03/16/2010

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i also used that counting strat at first she obey me but now she doesn't even care if im angry unless i get a stick.. she also answer back that sometimes i get to spank her...

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