How do I get my 2 1/2 year old daughter to go to bed without me besides hearing her cry for 10-30

April - posted on 11/16/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter has always wanted me beside her in order to fall asleep.It was the easiest thing to just go along with it but now ive started to read her a book, tuck her in and shut the door as I leave. She cries every single time.its been a month now? Any ideas,thoughts?


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Keara - posted on 11/16/2009




Hi. She will stop eventually but it will take time. I had my own bedtime ritual with my first born. It was hard hearing him cry but each night it would get a little less. She just has to get used to a new pattern. Once she's used to it, she may surprise you and say "Goodnight Mommy" when you walk out the door. I can't really tell you how long it will take. It depends on your daughter and how long she got used to the old pattern. I hope this helps.

April - posted on 11/16/2009




well the crying will stop but you are obviously her comfert zone

so maybe give her a sleeptime buddy or blanket

let her pick it out when shes not sleepy and in a good mood if she can decide on something

then maybe pick something and say that you used to sleep with it and it helped you sleep with out your mommy i mean it cant hurt to try

Joy - posted on 11/16/2009




She's going to have to cry. My kids did the same thing. My son Jack who is 2 1/2 is doing better. Is she in a crib or a "big girl" bed? I would say goodnight Love you ect... Then leave. They would cry scream have a fit. they were ok though. I would check on them 10-15 min. Do the same thing over kiss goodnight ect.. and eventually it stops. Jack is now in a "big boy" bed and does alot better. Hope this helps and good luck!

Lauren - posted on 11/16/2009




Hi April,

My son was the same but I refused to lay with him every night!! I too tried making it more pleasant and then just leaving but with little success!!

I found the best thing was decide what I would do till he was older and incorporate that at the same time as moven away from him.

So his first night went brush teeth, he picked a story, turn night light on, read story, cuddles and kisses then I sat holding his hand, with the occasional im still here.

Then the exact same (minus the words) until he got that i still wasn't going any where. Then I moved right to the end of his bed and just sat, didn't look or talk to him. A few nights of this and we sat on the floor at the end of his bed, then just inside the door and eventually just had the occasional were still here loudly from the lounge room.

He nows believes well always be just in the lounge room when he goes to sleep and its a dream for all of us!!

The whole thing wouldn't have taken more than 2 odd months!!! just don't move to the next spot until you believe they are comfortable at going to sleep at that distance..

Best of luck

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