How do I get my 2 year old to give up the pacifier?

Rebecca - posted on 01/02/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 2 year old son uses a pacifier at night. He sleeps really well. In the morning he takes it out and leaves it in his bed. I am starting to think that we should break him of this. He is very strong willed, and I am hesitant to cause him such emotional distress. Is it a bad thing that he still uses it at night?

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Gabrielle - posted on 01/08/2009

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I've heard some people say to cut the nipple, so it doesn't provide the suction anymore. The kids decide on their own it's no fun anymore. and give it up themselves. I don't blame you for being concerned about your kid just moving to their thumb - my daughter gave up her pacifier around 6 months for her thumb, and now we're struggling to get her to give up the thumb (she's 29 months now). I don't think it's supposed to effect the teeth until they're older, but my hubby is pretty concerned about it. So, we tell her she's big girl, doesn't need to suck her thumb, make it silly, and suggest other things, like chewing on her lovey. It's slowly working.

Brenda - posted on 01/07/2009

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I just got my daughter off the pacifier two weeks ago. The whole situation was actually more stressful for me than it was for her! My daughter was the same as your son, used the pacifier only at nap and night time and would take it out and leave it on her dresser when she woke up. I knew that if we took it away she would eventually get tired and fall asleep without it, but I didn’t want it to be traumatic for her since she seemed so attached to it when she got tired. My husband and I were thinking of either doing the "Binky Fairy" or tying the pacifier to a balloon and letting her send it to the moon, because she loves the moon! What ended up happening was that on Christmas day she was so exhausted after getting up so early and spending all day opening gifts that she fell asleep at nap time without it. That night she was again exhausted from traveling to all of our family’s houses and she fell asleep without it and slept the entire night. I put the pacifier away so she wouldn’t see it and be reminded that she needed it. The next day for nap she climbed into her bed and asked for her "binky." I told her she was a big girl and didn’t need it any more. She whimpered a little and went to sleep without it. She hasn’t used it ever since, although yesterday she did ask me where it went! I told her it was all gone. She keeps telling us that Santa took it when he left presents! So, my suggestion would be to wait for a day when he is so entirely exhausted that he will fall asleep without it and then just put it away and don’t take it out ever again!

Carolyn - posted on 01/05/2009

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You could tell him he's a big boy now and big boys don't use pacifiers and could have your child help you take all the pacifiers and throw them out. That way they know they are gone.

User - posted on 01/03/2009

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my son turned 3 in oct and HE decided to give it up, he too only had it at bed time.its not hurting anything, and if you are bothered about his teeth( although my sons are just perfect) take it out when hes asleep.

Lauren - posted on 01/03/2009

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Rebecca, it does seem like our sons are in much the same situation. While I don't disagree with Stacy and my ped gently recommended phasing out the pacifier, he pointed out that my son's teeth look great and he didn't think it was an emergency. I guess, I am just trying to find the right time. He really loves Binky, and even looks forward to bedtime because of it. At some point we'll have to decide to sacrifice a few peaceful nights, I guess.

Rebecca - posted on 01/02/2009

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I'm concerned that if I force it before he's ready, he may just turn to his thumb. That would be worse. I was a thumb-sucker myself until I was nearly 6. I remember many of the things my parents tried to break me. It seems that the pacifier will be an easier challenge when the time comes.
Lauren - it sounds like our sons are in the very same situation.

Stacy - posted on 01/02/2009

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I've had the pediatrician tell me that if the child has a binky/pacifier too long their teeth could get messed up

Lauren - posted on 01/02/2009

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Not sure if it is a bad thing or not. In fact, you could be writing about my son and I've been wondering the same thing. He uses the binky at bedtime and nap, sleeps well and is a well adjusted child. He isn't attached to any particular stuffed animals or blankets and I know he loves his binky. I am wondering if it is time for tough love, or whether taking it away right now would be just plain cruel.

Stacy - posted on 01/02/2009

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I got my children off the pacifier when they were one but a good way to do it is to tell him he is a big boy now and a brand new baby needs a pacifier and tie it to a balloon and let it go and tell him if he does this the pacifier fairy will leave him a gift for being such a big boyj.I learned this from Nanny 911 and it worked with both of my children

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