how do i get my 2year old to sleep in her own bed at nite

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Taylor - posted on 01/30/2009

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I would highly recommend Elizabeth Pantley's "no cry sleep solution" for toddlers. If you have been sleeping with your daughter, your philosophy seems to be getting your child to sleep in a way that is comfortable emotionally for her, not just convenient for you. 



Here are some suggestions that worked for us...



Create a sleep schedule. We do "diaper, pjs, vitamin brush teeth book." 



You may decide to snuggle your daughter to sleep in her bed for a time so she is used to going to sleep in her own room. 



To wean her off the snuggles, try taking longer and longer trips away from her. "I just have to go use the bathroom," and later "Mommy is going to take a shower/bath/do taxes and then I will be back." Make the trips gradually longer and always do come back. Remind her that "Mommy ALWAYS comes back." (the next morning you can say that you checked on her but she was already asleep!) Tell her how proud you are of her and how good she is doing and how SLEEPY she is. You may then stop snuggling, but sit next to her bed and hold hands, and a few days later sit at the edge of her room, and the next night sit in a chair in the hall in sight, and then out of sight. I highly recommend you get an MP3 player w/music or audio book because this whole process is very boring. 



Give her soothing things such as a lovey, lullaby CD, and/or a warm wash cloth on her head. She will probably find lots of excuses for you to come visit her (a drink of water, a kiss, she has to use the potty, tuck her in..) but what she is really saying is that she needs an emotional check in with you. She is not trying to manipulate you or ruin your evening off, she just needs you right now. Eventually, you can get slow about things too. 



I hope this helps! I am totally in the same boat and am currently having success doing it this way, but every kid is different and has her own needs. Good luck Martina!

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Andrea - posted on 01/30/2009

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Wow, my daughter is the same way! Her daycare provider puts her in a packnplay and she lies right down and goes to sleep.  We have to lie with her in our bed until she falls asleep then sneak out.  Her "new" big girl bed is ordered and we are going to start the process soon, but we are terrified of it too!

Tasha - posted on 01/30/2009

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I am having the same problem. When my daughter was younger we thought it was a good idea to let her sleep with us, this way she would sleep though the night and we would all get a good sleep. She is now 2 years old and REFUSES to sleep in her room at night or at nap time. I literally have to lie down with her to put her to sleep, and as soon as we try moving her she wakes up. We have tried the whole letting her cry till she falls asleep, but she just doesnt give in. If we close her door, she opens it. We now have a 5 week old son, and refuse to let him come anywhere near our bed in fear that this will happen again. But in all reality we need her out of our bed and into her own! If she is at grandmas house, or a babysitter puts her to bed she will sleep fine, but as soon as we come home shes right back into our bed! Any advice?

Angie - posted on 01/29/2009

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My son is 2.5 and is up at least a dozen times a night. Its hard to be patient with him in the morning (and the middle of the night) when your not getting enough sleep. We used to let him sleep with us but it was just to hard he moves around constantly and kicks the covers off. He wont stay in his room no matter how many times we put him back in there.We just dont get any sleep that way.For now we let him stay in a playpen in our room, next maybe we can move the playpen to the hallway and then his room hopefully. Good luck to you.



 

Claire - posted on 01/29/2009

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what helped me was getting ,my boy to pick his own new bedding, chooing a couple of stuffed toys to share the bed and new bedding, and star charts with a gold star for every night they sleep in their own bed, with a treat at the end of the week. they soon catch on.

Sonya - posted on 01/29/2009

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Try talking to her, explain whats going on and why.  let her think its her choice. if not, you are the mom and you'll have to be persistent.  she may cry and fight but once u get thru that, your bed will become your own. i just went thru this... my daughter is 3 and has always slept with me. i got pregnant and there just wouldnt be room. luckily me, she understood. there was still a fight for a while but its been 9 mos in her own bed and even now, 3 mos in her own room!  we all sleep better

Sonya - posted on 01/29/2009

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Try talking to her, explain whats going on and why.  let her think its her choice. if not, you are the mom and you'll have to be persistent.  she may cry and fight but once u get thru that, your bed will become your own. i just went thru this... my daughter is 3 and has always slept with me. i got pregnant and there just wouldnt be room. luckily me, she understood. there was still a fight for a while but its been 9 mos in her own bed and even now, 3 mos in her own room!  we all sleep better

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