How do i get my 4 year back to sleeping in her own room.

Yolanda - posted on 10/28/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




Her room is kid friendly but she has gotten to the point that she just will not sleep in her room. I have tried everything..


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Kaye - posted on 11/02/2009




I think the biggy is DON'T GIVE IN! it can take up to 3 weeks to get a child to sleep in their own room using just one tecnique. You have to be strong and you will find it very tiring, but it will be worth it when you have the result you want. At 4 children are very clever and know that saying they are thirsty, not tired, scared, need you to stay with them and tantrums all get them their own way. As mothers we hate seeing our kids upset before bedtime, but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Talk to her about bedtime well before she goes to bed. Explain that tonight she is going into her room to sleep, she will have a bath first a story then a kiss and lights out. When bedtime comes get her to repeat what you had agreed earlier, go over the routine a few times. AS she does each part give lots of praise. If she starts to cry and get out of bed when you leave wait outside the door, take her hand and say it's bed time, put her into bed and leave again. Carry on this process until she falls asleep. She will try every trick in the book to get out of her room, but be strong and continue to return her to bed. If you give in at any time she will know you are not really in charge and she can get what she wants, and you will be back to square one, with your daughter knowing she can make you crack under the pressure eventually if she keeps it up long enough!

The key is to stay calm, you know this is going to be a slow process, so don't expect her to just comply after 2 nights..... good luck, and let me know how it goes if you decide to try this.

Kaye xx

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Try putting a night light in her room and before bed read her stories in her room, massage her with cream and make it a pleasant before bed environment so that by the time it comes for her to go to sleep she is already comfortable. Explain to her that you are right outside if she needs you but it is really important for 'big' girls to go to sleep in their own bed and maybe there will be a surprise for her in the morning if she goes to sleep in her own bed.

Nicole - posted on 10/28/2009




I am going thru the same thing with my 4 year old. She screamed for an hour tonight until I finally just gave up & sent her to my room where she wanted to be... I have no idea what to do either. She tells me shes scared of her room....There is nothing to be scared of in there at all. Now, if shes really tired then shell go to sleep in there sometimes or if my husband is home. I thought I was the only one with this problem....After shes asleep i carry her to her room & shes good. She just has to fall asleep in my room. I need help too...Im tired of fighting with her & just give up. Im sorry I know you were looking for advise but I was amazed theres another mother out there in the same situation as me. Good luck. I will check back to see what others have said.

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