How do I get my daughter to sleep in her own bed all nite?

Mindy - posted on 07/29/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Almost everynite my daughter will fall asleep in her bed. She sleeps for a few hours then wake histarically screaming for mommy. The only way I can get her to calm down and go back to sleep is to bring her to our bed. I know big no no. She just latches on to me and wont let go. What do I do to stop this cycle?

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Krista - posted on 07/29/2009

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Seems like she might be having night terrors. Does she wake at the same time every night? If she does, try waking her gently about 15 minutes before it happens. You'll break the cycle and she'll be willing to stay in her bed more. Alternately, you could go out to the store and by her a "protector". A stuffed animal or something that will protect her in the middle of the night. Pretend that you can talk to the animal and make sure you tell the animal that his/her job is to keep her safe and happy.

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Sarah - posted on 08/23/2009

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i went through this stage to.I ended up getting advice from a friend who took her daughters to a sleep class.I was told the first night would be the worst and even if you have to be up all night it's worth it.What happens is you put the child to bed then if the child is still crying after two minutes you go in without talking to them lay them back down and walk out again but this time waiting for 5 minutes you slowly increase the time by 3 minutes untill the child finally gives up lol.It's hard to listen to your child screaming but i did it and it was worth it after the 3rd night of doing this she was sleeping thru the night.

Kimberly - posted on 08/23/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

It definitely is tough...both of my sons liked to sleep with us as well! Unfortunately, the only method I know is hardest on the parents and takes willpower! Let them cry in their crib...turn off the monitor. Both my kids would fall back to sleep after about 30 mins. of crying...the next night was only 20 min....the next night 10 min. Good luck!



My son never wanted to sleep with my husband and I until he got really sick with the stomach bug at around age 2. We kept him in bed with us for a couple nights to make sure he could make it to the bathroom and after that he would wake up wanting to come to bed with us. After a couple of nights we knew it had to stop so.....Above is the exact methood I used with my son and it worked for me and only took about 5-6days before he stopped even waking up in the night. Good luck!!

Lindsay - posted on 08/23/2009

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My husband and I are going through the same thing with our little girl , she wont stay in her bed however she will sleep in pack and play so when she falls asleep in the pack and play in our room we simply drag it into he room and she wakes up in the morning in her own room It may work for you

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we had this problem a few months ago. our daughter would fall asleep in her bed but in the middle of the night would end up in our bed. we talked it over with our peditricain and decided that the "cold turkey" approach was the best.
whenever she woke up in the middle of the night we would let her cry. at first she cried for an hour the following the week she cried for 45 minutes the following 30 minutes.
unitl the final week she would cry for a few and would put herself back to sleep. and now she sleeps through the night with no problem.
it was tough at first, because who wants to hear their baby cry. but we knew there was nothing wrong with her.
plus the advice that our peditrician always tells us, babies dont have a sleeping problem parents do. cause we are the ones that need to be somewhere the following day.

Margaret - posted on 08/09/2009

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For the last 2 months we have been trying to persuade my son (now 16 months) to sleep for longer than 2 hours at a time. He had been nursing multiple times at night and I needed to stop that because I couldn't keep up anymore and thought we would do the move to his own bed at the same time. He would still wake up around every two hours and he would stay in his own bed but I ended up sleeping half the night with him because I would fall asleep, wake up go back to my own bed and then he would wake up. The 4/5am time was the most difficult to get him back to sleep because he wanted to nurse. After roping hubby in to do some of the night time visits, hubby couldn't take the lack of sleep and my son now starts in his own bed and comes through to ours the first time he wakes up after we've gone to bed. The first night back he slept 5 hours straight.

I really can't take leaving him to cry alone, it's bad enough when he cries and I'm there.

Stephanie - posted on 07/30/2009

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Go in and reassure her that everything is ok. It will take time in her room but don't take her to yours. She has your leg pulled. My daughter has found if she screems when her dad is around she gets what she wants because he can't stand the screaming but she doesn't do it with me because I just take her to her room and tell her that screaming is bad. She stops. So take the time to turn on the light in her room settle her down and even lay in bed with her if you have to until she is almost asleep. Than quietly leave the room without saying anything. It will probably take a bit of time but it is always harder on the parents then the kids.

Krista - posted on 07/29/2009

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I hate to break it to you, but the one day growing out of it....not gonna happen. My nephew slept in my sister's bed until he was 7 and she finally said that it was enough. He probably would have kept on that way if she hadn't.

Trisha - posted on 07/29/2009

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I have the same problem. My son is 3 and still does it. I am a single parent so I haven't enforced anything yet. I just hope one day he will grow out of it.

Mindy - posted on 07/29/2009

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I have the same problem hi with my son, so i let him fall alseep withme then i carry him to his bed, sometimes i have to take him back back to his bed in the early hours. but its a start, he can get out. of his bed or i would just let him cry. Good luck and you find your method soon.

Michelle - posted on 07/29/2009

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hi im goin thru the same thing...i used to put her bak to bed n if she got out id put her bak n close the door for 20min, go in calm her dwn..walk out if she got out again id close the door again...... (this is wot i do to put her to bed except she dosent gt out of bed nemore) it only took about 2weeks for her to not get in my bed, lots of sleepless nites though.... then my newborn got sik n all routine wnt out the window n my new method is woteva works.... gud luk m8t..... o wot i suggestd takes LOTS of willpowa n is hard to emotionally handle ur child like tht the 1st few nites but it does get beta....

Sarah - posted on 07/29/2009

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It definitely is tough...both of my sons liked to sleep with us as well! Unfortunately, the only method I know is hardest on the parents and takes willpower! Let them cry in their crib...turn off the monitor. Both my kids would fall back to sleep after about 30 mins. of crying...the next night was only 20 min....the next night 10 min. Good luck!

Stephanie - posted on 07/29/2009

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you are not alone...having the same problems someone please give us some help???

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