How do I get my daughter to stay in bed all night!


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Is your bedtime routine consistent? To me that is key, my daughter and I have had the same bedtime routine since she was a baby, we make adaptations here and there and now that she's in a toddler bed, I still rock with her while she drinks her last cup of milk or water, then once she's finished we rock a bit more and I tell her that she's got a big day tomorrow and now that she's a big girl she's got to go to sleep so she can go see Daleen (our DCP) and play with all the other kids and have a wonderful day. Then I ask her if she's ready to go nuh night and she'll either say yes or no, if she says no I'll rock a bit more then ask again and if she says no, I just talk to her soothingly and rub her back while I'm talking. Because it is so routine it usually only takes about 10-15 minutes, some nights it's longer and I figure it's just because she wants more time with mommy and that's ok with me. Some nights even though she says no I just put her in bed, rub her back and talk to her some more and she's ok. She might fuss a bit after I leave but that's just the pathetic feel sorry for me fake cry and if I ignore it she goes to sleep just fine.

Hopefully you all find something that works great for you!!

Julie - posted on 02/26/2009




My son is almost 2 1/2 yrs old, and he would get up repeatedly after putting him to bed. He had started getting up at 4 am continuously when I had my second baby, and that stopped after a couple months. My son is pretty much staying in bed now b/c I started saying to him just before bed that "it is time to sleep, close your eyes, and he is not to get out of bed." We also have a gate at his bedroom door so he can't wander in the middle of the night. It took him a couple nights of me saying this to him and him knowing that he is not coming downstairs or out of his bedroom just b/c because he is out of bed. I just kept putting him back and repeating those words. My husband was home after a couple nights b/c of shift work and was so impressed that he stayed down that he started saying that to him when it is naptime too. We feel that if you give in once, than the child will think that they will get away with it all the time and that you will give up or give in the next time it gets hard. Don't give up or give in..don't lie with the child in bed, yes, I understand it gives comfort to the child, but they have to learn to sleep on their own, and learn to get to sleep on their own..My child never slept with me in bed, only when he was very very small, and was in his own crib at 6 weeks. He just never wanted to sleep with us. We also don't have any toys in his bedroom, we feel that the bedroom is for sleep, not play. It just adds distraction for the task that you want them to do. Good luck ladies!

Amber - posted on 02/26/2009




I too had this problem. After getting my son into a routine of sleeping through the night, he would still get up atleast once to try and get in our bed. It was tedious getting up to resettle him every night, but persistance works. We read a night time story every night, and settle him and tell him to stay "until the sun comes up". I would be lying to say it was that easy, lol, but thats where we are at now. To START this I used bribery. I know, I know- shouldn't bribe but it worked. If James "stayed in his bed until the sun comes up for 7 sleeps" he got a new car. Sometimes he would get to 4, or 5 and then wake up so we would start again. After all of that staying in bed, and 2 new cars, he does it on his own now.
Hang in there!

Emily - posted on 02/25/2009




i also had this problem .... i was continuely putting my son back in his bed. Then he began the 4am wake up and again i was back and forward putting him into bed. What worked for me, i would then get into his bed and pretend to go to sleep. Takes away the fun of getting mummy up and he soon stopped all together.

Marie - posted on 02/25/2009




my 4 yr old gets up about 3 or 4 am, the wakes fully up at 6 am and has been for months. I would also be interested in an answer...

Deidre - posted on 02/25/2009




You aren't alone. I would also be interested in an answer.  I have a 2 1/2 year old that just started getting up about 3-4am this week.  I don't know what is going on, nothing else in her routine has changed.  She is easy to put back to bed, no fussing.  I am the one that has trouble falling back asleep.

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