How do i get my nearly 3 yr old off bottles and soothers

Fiona - posted on 09/03/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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my son is 3 in november and loves his bottles he uses cups and beakers but always wants a bottle .dont mind at night but day time has to stop ,soothers he loves also yet again dont mind at night but day time has to stop .any help ladies??

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Maggie - posted on 09/03/2009

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do like Super Nanny does. Have the child get all their pacifiers and put them in a baggie (let him decorate a paper bag). Tell him it's time to give them to little babies who don't have any pacifiers and since he's a big boy he doesn't need them anymore. The pacifier fairy will come pick up the bag when he's asleep and will leave him a treat for being such a good sharer. The treat can be anything you know he'll like...a small car or stuffed animal or something. When he misses the pacifiers you can remind him how he helped the little babies...it seems to work for Super Nanny!

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Sarah - posted on 09/05/2009

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My daughter just turned three and on her birthday she threw away her pacifier. We talked with her about being a big girl and she made the choice to throw them in the garbage. They will stop using it when they are ready

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Hi Fiona,

We just got our nearly 3 year old off bottles. What we did was talk to her a little before hand about being a big girl and giving her bottle to Santa. She got used to this idea so when we went on holidays in August we said that she was a big girl and she was going to give her bottle to Santa. I didn´t pack her bottle and on the first night Santa had left a big cuddly pig on her bed. I know it´s only August but Santa came to her as a special treat. It worked really well. When we came home, the first night she asked for her bottle, we said she was a big girl now and she accepted that.She loves going to bed now with her piggy.
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Jade - posted on 09/03/2009

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hello Fiona on my 2yr old daughter i talked to her that she's a big girl now.she understood but still she wants to drink in her bottle so one time her bottle fall on the street in our subd so i grabbed the opportunity heheeh i told her our dog poo in the street so her bottle is very dirty i gave her a choice drink in a glass or bottle i hid the bottle and always told her it's dirty.now thank God she drink on glass now..hope i help

Sherry - posted on 09/03/2009

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a day before my daughter turned 1 I took all her bottles away and from then on made her use a sippy cup. I told her big girls don't use bottles. It was hard for a few days, but after that she was fine.

Tiffany - posted on 09/03/2009

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simplly just take them both away. it will be better to take them both away at the same time, 3 is just to old to be still on bottles and soothers. Its going to be HARD at first but its REALLY time that you do this. Its will be better for him and you in the long run. Just tell him that its time to be a BIG boy and reward him each day that he goes without it at first..when he thinks that hes a big boy he will not want them at all..... i hope that you take my advice.

Tiffany

Grace - posted on 09/03/2009

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The problem here is, kids develop what is called "object permanence" at 12 months old. So, these two ladies are right. I think you should take Christa's advice and talk to your son about how he is a big boy now and that big boys don't use bottles and binkies and let him throw them away. Also, not to judge your parenting style, but you should never allow a child to go to bed with a bottle or a sippy cup because it can cause tooth decay and/or ear infections. I'm guilty of doing that a few times, but my mom got on my case about it a while ago and I haven't done it since. Long story short, you do need to discard of the bottles and the binkies, and I think it is a good idea for him to help throw them away, that way he knows they are gone forever. You might be tempted to replace those soothers with other objects like a blanket...and if he has developed such attachment issues, I don't know if that would be a good idea or not. That is a personal decision.

Christa - posted on 09/03/2009

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I think it might help if you talk to him about becoming a big boy. Tell him that he is a big boy now and they dont need things like that. Let him throw them in the trash, so that he knows that he can never have them again. It helps to include them in on what you do, no matter the age. Hope things work out for you. Lots of Luck.

Jela - posted on 09/03/2009

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In my opinion a three year old should not have a bottle at all .... Simply take it away! Binkies or whatever you may call them should have been gone by now also... Just make them disappear. I dont want to sound harsh about it but the best way to do it because it can be harder on the moms and dads then the kids actually is to just throw that kind of stuff away so you wont be tempted to give it back when he whines for it or cries for it.Best way is to just do it! I did it with my son just took it away luckily he didnt have a hard time with it. I know you can do it too! :) Good luck!

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