How do I get my three year old son to poop in the potty?

Colette - posted on 11/11/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )




We've been struggling for over a year to get him to poop on the potty. He is on Miralax due to the suggestion of a GI Specialist because he used to be constipated but he just poops in his underwear. We make him sit after every meal but sometimes he still goes in his underwear even after a few successful days on the potty. We've tried candy rewards, stickers, making it exciting and there's been many potty sessions with us being frustrated. We don't want to punish but my husband and I feel like we've tried everything and our patience is running low. Please offer any tips and advice.


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Theresa - posted on 11/11/2008




My son took about 6 months to get the pooping in the potty down pat. He did really good with a star chart for peeing, but it didn't work for pooping. I finally created a star chart that had 1 square with the word 'poop' in it. I told him that in order to get a prize from the prize box, he had to fill the whole chart. The chart hung on the wall for days with only the 'poop star' remaining. Then he just did it. The next chart had 2 'poop stars' on it. My oldest tends to feel overwhelmed easily, so this helped him ease in to it. I would also make comments to no one in particular that 'wow, mommy is sure tired of cleaning up poopy pants. I can't wait for the day that I don't have to clean up poopy pants.' You have to sound super weary and all dramatic. I never said it directly to my son, but kids are always listening :-)

Nicole - posted on 11/11/2008




I feel your pain...
My grandma keeps telling me she never knew anyone who was still pooping their pants when they got married, don't worry about it, he'll get it.
I guess that is her way of telling me to have patience. She does work with my son to help potty train him so it isn't like she is blowing me off. Hope this helps.

Brenda - posted on 11/11/2008




When we were in this transition period, we started taking books and games to the potty so Jonas could just sit for a while. I realized I needed to plan a few less outings so that we could just get through that time at home. Jonas is 3 and a half and he still has accidents, but lucky for me he has decided to start squatting whenever he needs to go even though he says he doesn't need to. At one point, Jonas was also having a hard time going on a potty that was too tall. So, we let him use the toddler potty chair more often so that his feet could get a grip and push on the floor and help him with the movement. Hang in there, Mom and Dad!!

Rebekah - posted on 11/11/2008




I feel your pain. I just went through this with my son. We thought there was no hope in sight, One day things just started to change. Keep up with what you are doing. Stay as consistent as possible do not let up. He will eventually get it. meanwhile you will be losing your mind and your patience:o) Try to not makie it all too big of a deal. It turned out that my son was nervous about all the attention given to it all. It made him feel anxious. So we followed with all the same steps with less excitement and it started to work. We tried punishing, it didn't work and it made us feel bad. Also, our daughter who is 1 1/2 years younger than him, potty trained in two days all on her there is hope for future children:) Hope this helps!

Ashley - posted on 11/11/2008




My brother's son just got "poop" trained. He did it about 3 months before his 4th birthday. He may be anxious about it because of the contsipation he had, or maybe it hurts his tummy when he has to go because of the laxitive.

My brother and sister in law tried everything, and it got to where she got very upset every time. Finally, he was pooping and just walking around with it because he was afraid of making her mad. They started just keeping the frustration hidden from him, so he wasn't afraid to ask for help, and really really being positive when he did it. Then if he had an accident, they would talk about how everyone has accidents and what do we do when we need to go poop, etc. Their patience finally paid off. I thought they would never get through it, but they did. It wasn't until they found that patience, though and just worked and worked at it. I don't think that getting upset helps, as hard as it is not to.

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