How do i get my two..almost three year old to not cry out every morning(2,3, 4 am) for me to come and get her...I am sleep deprived AGAIN???


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The clock does work wonders....especially with Daylight Savings. We told my daughter that if it was light outside it was okay to get out of bed but that she needed to stay and play in her room until the first number on her clock was a "7". Don't know how well it would help to keep her from calling out because we never used it for that purpose.

Shelley - posted on 02/24/2009




One thing that helped with mine was to teach her that "morning" did not come until the first number on her digital clock was a 7, and that she was NOT getting to get out of her bed until then.  (Yes, an 18 month old can be taught to recognize a 7 if Mom's sleep depends on it!)  If she cried, I'd come in and give her one hug and kiss, do "Teddybear" on her back, and then leave.  If she kept crying, unless she was sick or hysterical, I'd call to her from outside her room that I loved her but it was time to sleep.  I'd make sure to respond every few minutes, so she didn't feel abandoned, but I wouldn't play along.  We also showed her the monitor when she was about 2, and explained how it let us hear her when we weren't upstairs in our bedroom next door to her.  That seemed to help, because she felt more confident we'd hear her if she really needed us.  And special "snuggle time" when it's officially morning is a great motivator, especially if you have to tell her regretfully that you and she don't get to have your special time this morning because it all got used up at night.

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It does depend on why they are waking up. When my daughter was a little over three, she said she felt lonely and kind of scared. She already had a nightlight so I asked if there was anything that would make her feel better and gave some options that I felt comfortable with honoring. Things like a special stuffed toy....or a neat pillow. We got her a Lil' Snoogle by Leachco and she has not cried out since then. It's about $30 at Walmart online. I made it clear that this special item was to help her feel comfortable at night and that she would need to stop interupting everyone else's sleep. I reassured her that as soon as it was light outside and the rest of the household was awake, that she would get all of the love and snuggles she needed because we would all feel rested. Making your child part of a "team" effort starts working around that age, so letting her know how her sleeping will help everyone be more rested, energetic, and alert will encourage her. My daughter loves the zoo and musuem so I pointed out that when we are all rested and in a good mood that it's a lot easier to make one of those trips. Good luck.

Christine - posted on 02/24/2009




As a mother of an 11, 7 and 2 year old I totally agree that consistancy is VERY important. First you need to assess why the child is waking up - at this age they can kind of tell you or you can get an idea.  Is the child afraid, teething (getting the molars) or just wanting up?  At this age nightmares can be happening so limit what the child sees on TV and computers.  If teething maybe have something that the child can chew on (my 2 year old still chomps like crazy on his pacifier).  If you can avoid taking the child out of bed, I would recommend that.  Provide some comfort, but not all the comfort that they may be asking for - when my kids have wanted up, I would just say "no up, it's time for sleep", but I would have them lie down and I would stroke their head or back for a while - gradually end up just stroking the leg so it's easier to leave (sometimes I would even just stand by the crib/bed just so they had my presence, but not touch them).  After awhile they realize that it's not really worth getting up for.  I would also try and tell them that mommy is tired, so don't wake mommy up any more (sometimes that would work).

Jaclyn - posted on 02/24/2009




I totally understand, my 2 1/2 year old started doing the same thing and he would try and get dad or i to sleep on his floor in his room, we caved for awhile and then it became a bad habbit, so definetly dont cave, just go in there and say its still sleepy time and make sure they dont need anything then tuck them back in and keep up with it eventually they get it that  your sticking with it and they still need to sleep then shut the door. Consistency is always the key i think, i hope this helps.

Itsamystery - posted on 02/23/2009




What does she want when she cries out? If she just wants cuddles, I agree with Maureen. Sometimes it's easier to give them the cuddles and comfort they want than try to train it out of them. Has anything happened lately in her life that could be upsetting her?

Maureen - posted on 02/23/2009




Both my kids cried out during the night. We put them in day beds so they could get in and out on their own. Now if they want us, they come to us. We have night lights in each room so there is always some light. We have blankets and pillows set up in our room. Many nights they come in and just fall back to sleep.

User - posted on 02/23/2009




my daughter is almost 3 and am going thru same thing...she always slept thru from 6wks till she was about 2 and rom 12am all way thru night at least 4 times shes up screaming for me then asking for more bott bott....i am exhausted 1 night a 4amk a neighbour buzzed and told me to control my daughter!!!!!!! im at my witts end

Louise - posted on 02/17/2009




my one year old has just started doin this again, i go in an check hes ok, then leave him to cry, am really hopin this works as i have a 5 wk old so am sleep deprived without him cryin too

Tanya Bauer - posted on 02/17/2009




What time does she go to bed? Does she take any naps during the day? I would say go to her and explain to her that it is still sleepy time and that she needs to go back to sleep. My almost 2 year old has been waking up around 6 for the past couple of days and if I go in, rock her a little, and put her back in bed she is usually good for another half hour. Just explain to her that it is dark so it's still sleepy time.

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