how do i get ym 2 year old to stop biting the other kids at daycare?

Jessica - posted on 03/17/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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she only bites kids at daycare because when shes home there aren't other kids for her to bite and she doesnt bite me so i can't tell her to stop something shes not doing. it got so bad one of the parents is a lawyer and she threatened to sue the daycare and they kicked my daughter out for a week. i really need to get this under control so if anyone has a suggestion it'd be much appreciated!

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Crystal - posted on 03/20/2010

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Crystal - posted on 03/20/2010

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Crystal - posted on 03/20/2010

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It's super hard to do or even allow someone else to do but biting back has worked for others, I couldn't ever bring myself to do it to my own child. She was biting my shoulder when she'd hug me, for us what stopped her doing it was one time that she bit me so hard it drew blood and my first reaction was to drop/shove her off me, thankfully we were on the couch so my reaction didn't cause her to get hurt but the scare of being shoved so quickly was enough that she never bit me again. The one and only time she's ever bit another child (on the cheek which was odd to me), the little girl ended up punching her (which she got in trouble for) but it was enough that Layla never tried it again. Sometimes it's just to push their boundaries, not an answer anyone wants to hear but sometimes they just have to grow out of it. You may just emphasize punishment, make the punishments more meaningful, my daughter could care less if you put her in time out but if you threaten to take any of her Dora toys, she's in tears and will do whatever you want her to!

Jenny - posted on 03/19/2010

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I completely agree with biting back! I know it sounds horrible, but my son bit me hard enough to leave bruises, I bit him back ( not nearly as hard ) and he never bit again!

Serena - posted on 03/17/2010

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I totally know where you are coming from. My son right around two years old went through his biting stage really bad. He had bit a little girl at the babysitter for what the sitter said was "no apparent reason" while she was making lunch. The mother of this child called the cops and demanded they go over there and take my child into custody and report her to the authorities. Luckily they took a statement and told her, he's a child thats what they do. I had a few choice words but kept to myself. Some parents are going to overreact because this is their baby...and we just have to accept that.

About the biting thing, good luck! My son no matter what was done, it didn't help. It is truly a phase and they need to grow out of it. THere are measures the daycare can take like keeping an extra eye on your daughter and showing all the attention to the one who was bit. I noticed this one helped alot, he was told "no we don't bite" and then the bitee was fawned over like he or she broke a leg. At this age attention is attention positive or negative. We tried the biting back and it didn't do too much good. I am totally for trying it though not because I like causing my child pain but I've heard it works. It couldn't be from you though, maybe you can have an older cousin or something bite her so its more on her level. Good luck though!

Danielle - posted on 03/17/2010

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Yah but she cant bite her back. Shes at daycare when this is happening. She stated she doesnt do this at home. And If she did bite her when they got back home it wouldnt click with her daughter why shes biting her. I say dont bite her back unless she does it to you or anyone at home.

Carrissa - posted on 03/17/2010

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when i went through that my mom just bit mr back hard enough to hurt and i quit

Danielle - posted on 03/17/2010

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Jessica I know where your coming from. I am a preschool teacher. This is very common for her age. And I agree with Melissa something is upsetting her. Does she talk a lot? Because with biting comes lack of words. I would be having the teacher be keeping a closer watch on her. When we had a biter in our class we would be interacting with that child more that way we could get the biting under control. She might even be bored in the class shes in. Is she in a toddler classroom yet? I know in our toddler classroom the ratio is 9 children to two teachers and 4 kids to one teacher. So whats the size of the classroom. I would def set up a meeting with the teachers and directors so you guys can make out a plan on how you all can work on this together. You do need their support and help esp because shes only doing it there. I wish you a lot of luck Its very hard to get to the bottom of something when your not there.

Melissa - posted on 03/17/2010

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We went through this with my now 3 year old daughter. We sat down with the teachers at the daycare and asked what happened before she would bite and they explained most of the time the were fighting over a toy. One lady suggested that we bring a teething ring or toy(stuffed animal) for her to chew on when she was frustrated, that's what we ended up doing because she wasn't biting at home only at daycare. After about a week or two of her having her toy to chew on she quit biting and eventually grew out of that stage. Good Luck!!!!

Christina - posted on 03/17/2010

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OKAY so i know this might sound bad....but my son bit me hard. and i explained that he couldnt do that and that it wasnt nice and that it really hurts. he shrugged his shoulders like he didnt care and I asked him if he wanted to feel hurt again he shrugged his shoulders so.....i grabbed his arm and bit him NOT extremely hard, but enough that his eyes went wide no tears though but he realized that it did hurt. again i asked him if he would bite me or anyone and he NO mommy! thats not nice! lol. sometimes you have to give ur child a taste of their own medicine. lol .

but if that is not you, just talk to her constantly or maybe get someone else to talk to her. someone not related. kids tend to listen to others then their parents.

good luck

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I'm not sure if this approach will work for you but from my experience...try biting her back when it happens. Now since your never there when it occurs and chances are the teacher probably won't allow the other child to bite her back I'm not sure how you'll do this. She's biting because she's frustrated about something, maybe things aren't going her way, kids don't bite like that to see what it taste like..something's leading up to the bite. Sit down and talk with the teacher and see what's going prior to the bite. Maybe there is something that can be done to prevent it.

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