How do I make my 3 yr old son listen to me?


Kari - posted on 03/25/2009




I don't have any answers for you, but wanted to let you know I am in the same position with my 3 year old!  I'm right there with you, girl!


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Rebekka - posted on 03/25/2009




If you give to many choices a child can be over whelmed as much as not giving any choices. You as a parent also need to remember that somethings are not a choice. But I agree with focusing on the positive behaviors. I am one who praises my kids for everything including how nice they have dressed themself for school. To how well they do eating there supper. Trail and error is the best way to figure out what works with your child. Trust me I have 4 all ranging between 8and1. They are all different.

Angela - posted on 03/25/2009




what exactly is your sons behavior?

 my son is 2 and he doesnt listen all the time.  but when he doesnt listen i threaten to take away one of his toys.

but after he doesnt listen after a cople times you really have to take away one of his toys atleast for a couple hours.


i do that and time out in the corner. but taking away a toy he really likes works better.  


it depends on the kid.

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Giving choices are great!  I would also recommend focusing on the positive behaviors that you would like to continue and ignoring the ones that you want to go away (as long as it isn't something dangerous).  For example if your child jumps on the sofa and you catch him sitting on it like he should, then praise him "I really like how you are sitting so nicely" or if he doesn't like to share his toys and you see him playing nicely then praise him "wow look at how nice you are being by sharing your toys"  It takes a lot of practice because we as parents are used to only paying attention to the bad stuff, but it will work because kids inherently like to please us. 

Alexia - posted on 03/25/2009




I give my 3 yr old choices to give her more 'control'....I simply say "Here are your can pick up your toys or go to your room for a time out". Other examples are "You can sit in your restaurant chair or we will leave." I even use it for instances like..."You can play in your playroom, read a book, or take a nap" if I need her to keep herself busy for a few minutes. This really helps dominant personalities b/c they feel control even though they are doing what you expect of them. There have been times my daughter has picked the not as obvious choice....just make sure you follow through. If she is doing something I don't want her to I tell her, "Sorry that is not a choice. You can either...". I swear it works! It's to the point now that my daughter will say, 'okay, what are my choices'. Good luck!

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