how do i stop my son headbanging

Lisa - posted on 12/10/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




he does it non stop until he has hurt himself we used to put him on a pillow so he is safe now he does it on doors,walls and babygates. if we pull him away he bites


User - posted on 12/10/2009




i understand your frustration, my oldest was the same i took him to dr's ,and they all said the same .... ATTENTION!!! thats all its about, so just ignore his actions, he wont do it to do severe damage to himself, but if you concerned about his safety, maybe set up a playpen area away from walls, and each time he has his moment put him in there, and then go and do something he enjoys, by yourself eg, play with his fave toy, and then calmly say when you finished your sillyness, i would love it if you come have some fun with me... it will get easier, stay positive, all the best, i hope this helps xx

Lorie - posted on 12/10/2009




When my son was about 1 - 1 1/2 he use to bang his head on everything and I use to get so upset that he was going to or did hurt himself. He did everytime he was mad. So one day I just said " do it, all your doing is hurting yourself " and I wouldn't suggle him if he hurt himself. I would say about 2 months after that he stopped. I just ignored him doing it.

I hope this helps

good luck


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Elizabeth - posted on 01/04/2010




I have a 3 year old son who also dose head banging his out of control sometimes like ppl say his only doing it for attension. I tryed ignoreing him but made him worse he was having tantrums coz I was ignoreing him so sat him in time out until he carlmed down that went on for a hour and he was still going. I am still trying to get him out of head banging but nothings working for me :(. All kids are different hopefuly something will work for you :) Best of luck!

Ashley - posted on 12/11/2009




Bahaha! My son is 11 months old and bangs his head on things too! Idk abt yours, but mine does it for attention. We used to laugh at him, so he would keep doing it. Now I'm trying to teach him that it's not funny. He's hurt himself doing it a couple times...I think he'll outgrow it. Just make sure you dnt laugh at him, or give him attention when he does it. Good luck!

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I have 4 children, my 1st 2 are girls then my son, another daughter. WELL, I had never witnessed such a thing before my son began with this behaviour & it freaked us & most everyone else out. I honestly thought we were going to discover our son had autism or some such thing. He is now 4 1/2 & is perfect & perfectly normal & since that time I have had numerous girlfriend's with boys experience the same thing! It seems to me it's generally a boy thing to do & girls demonstrate their frustration in a different way...
From memory I think it started around 8 months of age & it lasted between 3-6 months. Soldier on : )

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hey i understand completly, i have actually just went thru this last month with my 19 month old son, my health visitor told me to ingore him and he will stop which i found very difficult to do and it always sounds sore, i entuallu stayed strong and ingnored him or when he did it just used to say oh well your own fault (which my parents said i was being cruel) it hurt me but tbh he has learnt very quickly that he dont het attention and he has now stopped the head banging thank god, the only time he does it now is in a tantrum when trying to dress him lol

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