How do I toilet train my toddler when he absolutely refuses?

Shannon - posted on 11/08/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have twin boys who turn 3 in January and I am having big problems with toilet training one of them. He has no interest at all in getting out of nappies. He refuses to even sit on a toilet. He has severe constipation and fights the urge to ever do a poo. How do I get my son on the loo? His twin brother is fine and happy to do it.


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Leandra - posted on 12/05/2012




You can get a kids urinal that might help. Also make a game of it, have him aim for Cheerios or bits of leafs you toss in. I do agree that solving his constipation will help too.

Molly - posted on 11/28/2011




Have the boys watch Elmo's Potty training video. May you continue to have the patience needed during this time of training. Best, Mom of 3

Michelle - posted on 11/08/2011




Constipation may actually be the reason why he doesn't want to learn. It can be extremely uncomfortable and also painful. I think perhaps you should firstly find out the cause of his constipation as, if you solve that problem, the rest may be a lot easier. Constipation can be caused by food allergies. My 6 year old used to suffer with really bad constipation when she was about 2 years old and, when she did eventually do a poo it was either extremely painful or extremely loose. She never wanted to go to the toilet. I wasn't happy with how she was so I went to the doctors and was referred to a paediatric dietician. After a few tests we confirmed she has a gluten intolerance (though she's not a coeliac, thankfully). As soon as we cut gluten out of her diet she didn't suffer with constipation anymore and she was toilet trained very quickly after that. A very common cause of constipation is bread. I myself can't eat very much of it before I have a problem. Anyway, certainly look into diet and investigate the cause. I hope this helps.

Maureen - posted on 11/08/2011




I have four children. Three are potty trained. I have found that they will do it once I stopped forcing the issue. The older two were 3.5 before they wanted to use the potty. We did a sticker chart at first. They would get a sticker for just sitting on the potty. Once they were doing that then it would switch to a sticker when they went and two for going poo. My third was the easiest to train but he was over three also. Relax, he really will decide on his own. HIs twin can talk to him about how muck easier to do everything in the loo. Good luck.

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