how do u deal wit a terrible 2 whn he's @ his worst?

LAKRESHIA - posted on 03/01/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my 2 yr old has been throwin tantrums ane yelling whn he cant hve his way... he has started this cursing thing tht is not unacceptable... he doesnt like bein told to do sumthin and i dnt think a spankin is goin 2 wrk...

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I can SO relate to this, but my son was three when he decided to test each and every limit. I don't think spanking is okay, it is really just another term for hitting, and you don't hit people you love. try to just be patient with him ( I know this much easier said than done!). He is trying to be somewhat independant and he is trying to communicate but his emotions get all tangled up. try walking away, ignoring his outbursts and simply telling him that it is not okay to act that way. If that fails take his favorite toy away for the day and tell him if he acts better he will gain it back, and when he borders on a meltdown remind him of the toy. It WILL get better, just be patient!Good luck!

Christina - posted on 03/02/2010

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Mine is turning 2 soon but started misbehaving a few months ago, I find what works most of the time for me is when I get down to his level, take a hold of his hands (so I have his attention and he can't slap me!) and tell him sternly that he is being bad, then I will explain that when he is good he will have what he want's but only if he is allowed to have it. If my boy pushes his luck I usually give him a time out in his room but only for a few minutes. Most of the time he will go on and find something else to do other than what he was doing to get into trouble. If it doesn't work for me first time I just have to repeat myself but on occasion he will end up on the floor having a tantrum and that's when I ignore him and walk away. The key is consistency, I find that the biggest prob I have disciplining him is when my other family members don't follow through.implement the same strategy. Esp his aunts, they let him get away wit murder! Also, what u feed him mite be making him act up, I find that allot of sugar turns my sweetie into a monster!

Hope this gives u some ideas and helps u out. Good luck!

Amy - posted on 03/02/2010

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we started sign language with daughter - it helped some. the best thing we found to do was to take her to the bathroom and close the door most of the way and say she can yell as loud as she wants [or bedroom, whichever was closer, less intrusive to US] and when she thought she could be a polite young lady, come out. we left her alone and didn't listen to or watch tantrums. spankings didn't work. she got lippy and said "spank me then!" whoa! we knew we needed a change of method! when she wasn't getting attention from her fits, she just kinda quit. spankins were still attention even if negative. she's 3 now and if she acts up we just ask if she wants to go to her room and she opts to chill out and behave.

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LAKRESHIA - posted on 03/04/2010

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thanx ladies this was helpful... I'm really trying to be a good mom and when he acts that way it makes me wonder if Im doin sumthin wrong.

Sarah - posted on 03/01/2010

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Spankings dont work. Ive tried everything with my son. He hit his terrible 2's and dont think its ever going to end. He just now turned 3 and is still throwing temper tantrums if he cant have his own way. I have tried times outs, i have tired negociating and reasoning with him i have even tried spanking and nothing works. I'm still lost with it all and kinda wonder if its just a stage they have to eventually grow out of.

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