how do u deal with spoiled kids?

Carmen - posted on 02/17/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




my child always wants her way, and its very hard for me to take her anywhere what should i do.


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Jackie - posted on 02/18/2010




You are the parent, you need to put your foot down. She doesn't have to like your decision, thats why you are in charge . And most importantly you need to be consistent in your approach.

Janet - posted on 02/17/2010




Let your child know that you will not tolerate her misbehavement. When she misbehaves sit her in a time out chair facing the wall and explain to her as to why she's acting out and why your sitting her in the time-outchair she'll cry throw a fit be firm and patient with her . How long in the chair it's up to you, use your good judgement.depending on her age. My niece is 5 years old her time out is between 15 or 30 minutes, a toddler probably 5 to 10 minutes continue what you were doing, when time-out is complete explain the reason why you put her in time-out then reward her by giving her a big hug, taking her to the park, coloring, watch her favorite movies spending time with her. Each time she misbehaves remind her of her time-out chair and PLEASE DON'T GIVE IN TO HER MAKING SURE SHE COMPLETES HER TIME-OUT OR SHE'LL GET WORSE.

Brandi - posted on 02/17/2010




You have to be clear and consistent with her. Before you go anywhere, explain to her quite clearly and with NO NONSENSE where you are going, what you will be doing/buying and that you are NOT going to do/buy anything that isn't on the plan. I have found that this works really well with my kids. Before we go to the store, for example, I will tell them "we are going to the grocery store to buy the week's groceries. We will not be buying candy, cookies (unless they are on the list) or any of the little do dads in the non food section." I also tell them exactly how I expect them to behave. "I will not tolerate any tantrums, I expect that you will NOT ask for ANYTHING. IF you choose to throw a tantrum or repeatedly ask for things that you know we are not here to buy, I WILL leave the groceries, take you home and I will go back to the store when daddy comes home" I have only had to leave a store 2 times with my daughter. Once when she was very young, I had to take her outside to wait for my mother (whom we were shopping with). While outside we had a very stern discussion about appropriate behavior in a store. The second time, again we were in a store with my mother, and my daughter wouldn't stop grabbing things (we were at a dollar store, which if you have ever been you know all the stuff is close together and at reaching distance for a child) so I again took her outside had a discussion with her and gave her ONE chance to behave appropriately making sure she understood that if she did it again, we would wait for nema in the car. She was a perfect angel for the rest of the shopping trip and I have NEVER had to remove her from a store since (that was almost 2 and 1/2 years ago. Be firm and mean what you say and your child will know you mean business. Good luck.

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