How do you disapline a child of two that cant speak much? he hits people

Stehanie - posted on 06/19/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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my son is 2years old he cant say over much but he haqs become very aggrssive and hits people, he has a sister thats 6years old and she hurts him, i disapline her my son will laugh at me and think im playing, im getting very frustrated with it all now and need help? thank you

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Heather - posted on 06/28/2010

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Really try the school in your area. Because of his age it may not be an everyday thing but a few days a week will help him and u.

Heather - posted on 06/28/2010

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My sonis now 3 and he hits some still but not like he used to. He is just now starting to talk because of school and the more that he can communicate the less aggressive he is at home. He has a younger sister and she still is the one he hits most but the school says just put him in time out , just for a few minutes. to him it must seem longer and if he wont sit in a chair at first put him in his room He will fight it at first but when he gets the hint that you wont let him get his way until hes good it helps. Also check your local school for programs for speech delay. Some are free though the school district in your area.

Cassie - posted on 06/26/2010

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In my opinion.. the older child needs to be explained all about consequences as well... if you hurt others you will be in trouble,.. and if your son hurts her then you could use the old "treat people how you want to be treated line" for your daughter and your son....

Every time your son hurts people, just explain that it is naughty and isnt nice and put him on a time out spot. He may find that funny and disobey you a little while after you start that, but then find something else that will work.. In my experience with boys... they will push and push and push until they find a crack that they can win... good luck.. :)

Melissa - posted on 06/22/2010

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just because he doesn't speak does not mean he can't understand consequences.

Michelle - posted on 06/22/2010

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I would try to take a toy away from him. One that he really loves, or maybe a luxury. It worked with my son, and it still does. I don't think he hits because he sees you maybe sometimes give his sister a spanking. I think all toddlers will go through it at one point or another. Every kid is different, it's just a matter of finding what will work for him. I would also try not to show him if your getting frustrated or upset, I believe they can sense that and they feed off of it. I believe they are so quiet sometimes so they can plot against us! I'm kidding. However, if they see your frustrated or getting annoyed you might give in, so you have to try your hardest to not. They know eventually you will give in and they will get what they want if they keep frustrating you. We have all been to that breaking point of, "OKAY!!!! Just take it and be quiet!"
My son never really talked until he went to a day care with kids his age. We would get him to speak when he wanted something. We would not give him anything until he asked for it without demanding.
It seems you are a great mom, and I bet you will find his weak spot! Good luck! Time to fight my son for the Wii!!!

Mary - posted on 06/21/2010

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it seems your son hits people because he sees you do it to his sister. You should try to discipline her wihtout your son's presence

Erin - posted on 06/20/2010

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He sounds a lot like my little guy! My son has tons of energy, I wish it were contagious lol. I think most boys are just very busy and curious. They're still trying to explore there little worlds. My little guy is a great sleeper probably as a result of the energy level so I try not to nock it too much.
He wouldn't sit in a chair for time out either. He just did today for the first time. Try a pack and play with no toys or a safe room with no toys where he can still see you. A minute an age is all he needs at this point. Just don't use his crib (if he's still in one) You don't want him to have a negative association with where he sleeps or he'll think he's being punished when he's being put to bed.
Don't worry about the talking to much yet he'll get there. They all learn at different levels. My son talks some, He can ask for what he wants. He's also a little older than your son. I've met some kids his age that talk more and some who talk less. All kids have things they're ahead of the curb on and behind on others. Just keep interacting with him and he will pick it up. No need to fear.

Stehanie - posted on 06/20/2010

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thanks for your comments, my son does speak a little he's had a hearing check and alls fine, and ive had the health visitor round a few times she says he's fine she thinks because we know what he wants he has no need to speak but i try not to get what he wants, i dont really want to smack him, ive tryed to do time out and he wont stay put, ive even got the health visitor out because i thought he may have ADHD but she treat me like i was going mad. Im finding it hard to deal with him day to day she says he has alot of energy i take him out everyday and let him run around to burn off steam still nothing helps. im at a loss.

Fiona - posted on 06/19/2010

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I try not to hit (mainly because I think it sends the wrong message) although it's very hard sometimes! U use time out a lot and it works. I make him say sorry (before he could speak he would have to touch the person softly) and if he does it again he would go in time out for 2 mins. He would then have to say sorry at the end of time out. This works well...If you are worried about him not speaking, you could get his ears checked out.

Diane - posted on 06/19/2010

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2 and dosn't talk?? hmm my son wont shut up. I swat him on the butt and send him to his room. When im mad at him he hates it also try having him stand in the corner and ignore him untill his time is up =]

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