HOW DO YOU GET A 19MONTH OLD BABY TO SLEEP THROUGH THE NITE WITHOUT WAKING FOR A BOTTLE ?

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Angela - posted on 11/30/2009

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My daughter would only drink juice in her bottle for the longest time but just to let you know juice is REALLY bad for their teeth. My daughters teeth were starting to get bad so we decided to get rid of the juice, not all at once but slowly. We would take and put water in it and slowly it became all water. She know's it just water but we still call it juice. She is almost 2 1/2 and still sleeps with us on occasion and we just had a baby. She does fall asleep with us and than what we do is we have her toddler mattress on the floor of our room and we put her on that when she falls asleep. That way if she wakes up (which rarely happens anymore) she can find us. And if she does we put her back in her bed after she goes back to sleep. I know it's frustrating but it does get better and easier, don't worry.

Geneine C - posted on 11/30/2009

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D old ppl saying is 2 give them a bottle of warm water instead of d milk after a while they wouldnt wake up 4 no milk cause they relise they r not getting what tyhy want

Anita - posted on 11/30/2009

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Quoting HELEN:

HI, THANKS GUYS FOR THE IDEAS, BUT I HAVE ALREADY TRIED ALL THESE AND NONE AT ALL SEEM TO WORK FOR ME AT ALL, NO MATTER HOW LONG I TRY, IT'S JUST NOT GETTIN ANY EASIER, OR BETTER, I THINK IM JUST GONNA HAVE TO WAIT UNTILL HE JUST DOES SLEEP THRU THE NITE ALL BY HIMSELF, IT'S GONNA BE SO PAINFULL WITH A NEWBORN AS WELL AS HIM BEIN UNDER THE AGE OF 2 BUT I DON'T SEE NO OTHER OPTIONS, I WENT TO A SPECIALIST AT THE HOSPITAL AND THEY SAY IT'S NORMAL, THERE'S NO WAY IT'S NORMAL I KNOW THAT, BUT I CANNOT CHANGE IT, SO THANKS FOR THE HELP AND IDEAS. HELEN.



you sound sooooo much like me it's not funny. I also questioned if it was 'normal' or not. When my son was about 9 months old (he is 16 months now) and still waking every 20 minutes I tried 'surfing' the net, asking questions on forums, asking the hospital, getting a sleep consultant etc and NOTHING worked. I was getting sooo frustrated.  I (like you) was also desperate as I was due to have another baby when my son was 10 months old and let me tell you it's bloody hard work. like I said in my last post the only solution was to buy another queen size bed and have my partner and son sleep in that while I tended to the newborn's ngiht feeds. This has worked for us and is still working for us. I think the specialist you saw at the hospital was somewhat right by saying that 'it's normal' as I have come to the conclusion that some babies are just like that, especially after having tried everything. make sure you only offer him water too as the sugar content in juice is probably what is waking him too. hope you find a solution soon.

Anita - posted on 11/30/2009

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I really feel for you. My oldest is 15 months old and he still wakes up all night. We stopped giving him a bottle during the night from about 12 months and only offered him water (not juice or milk) but he is just one of those babies that wakes all the time ( we have tried EVERYTHING). We got desperate when he was about 10 months old as we had another baby when he was only 10 months old (yes... they are only 10 months apart... I fell pregnant 4 weeks after giving birth lol). so the SOLUTION was to put him in a big bed with his father while I sleep on my own and tend to our daughter who still has regular night feeds. I know it's exhausting, I think I get by on about 4hrs sleep a night and I cannot sleep during the day as they nap at different times. To be honest I think I am ready for the loony bin lol.....
we ended up getting a sleep consultant to come to our house when our son was 9 months old and we were about a week off on having our daughter. but all the sleep consultant did was show us the controlled crying method which was horrible and only lasted a week because Joe was back to waking up every 20 minutes. We finally reached the conclusion that Joe was just one of those babies that needs to be with someone when he is sleeping. He still wakes up a few times a night but his father is able to settle him quickly. I don't know if this is a boy thing because our daughter is an angel and has been sleeping through since birth! they are total opposites! gawd I am blabbering on here.... basically what I am saying is try just giving him water (out of a cup NOT a bottle) if he wakes at night and maybe let him sleep with you (or your partner.... maybe get another big bed, you and your partner might have to sacrifice not sleeping together for a little while....) as I believe they will grow out of it when they reach about 2 or 3 (maybe lol). Also my son is now 16 months old and he has dropped his afternoon sleep and only has one nap late morning for about an hour (but that's because he wakes up at 5am..). Maybe your son isn't napping during the day because he wakes up so late. The only other thing I can suggest is to wear him out as much as possible during the day so he is exhausted and then he might sleep better. But I think one of you (you or your partner.. ) might need to sleep with him for a little while until he grows out of it. My mother always said if the child isn't a) hungry b) wet or c) in pain then they have no reason to cry (do you change his nappies at night... some children hate having wet nappies). Not sure what else to suggest.. hope it all works out for you

Keisha - posted on 11/29/2009

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I had that problem with my daughter. To get her to sleep through the night we started giving her water instead of juice. It wasn't easy...believe me (alot of crying ) but it paid off. She only wakes to go to the bathroom now.

Fizah - posted on 11/28/2009

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Yes i agree. . We have to find ways of our own sometimes. . Which our kids can adapt too. .however suggestions are good ways to explore other ways! . .I shud try get the juice. . Btw EMMA, what kind of juice. . Is it cold or. . ? ?

Emma - posted on 11/28/2009

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try gettin him into a toddler bed. a special bed of his own. i made it exciting for my daughter.i told her all about it 1st tho. get his favorite cartoon bed covers. i would stop with the nice flavoured juice and give water only. if he doesnt drink it hes obviously not really thirsty and just wants a treat.it is hard my daughters 3 now and used to sleep with me but now she loves her own little space. i put story cds on for her to doze off to although some people didnt agree but it worked for us

Jennifer - posted on 11/27/2009

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Also a good thing to do to lessen the sugar effect is too put water in the cup with a little juice for flavor. My son never knows the difference as long as there is a little sweetness to it. Sugar is usually the culprit for my son........hunger is usually the culprit for my daughter.

Jennifer - posted on 11/27/2009

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Quoting Angela:

I made sure to feed mine before bedtime, with some rice cereal or oatmeal, I know it sounds kinda wierd, but when their stomach were full.. they slept all night. They usually woke up because they were hungry, or wet, so I tried the food thing.



I agree....my doctor told me to feed her rice cereal or oatmeal just before bed.  Then a little milk to wash it down.  This helps her sleep a lot better through the night.  Also, I find that having a fan or some other white noise in her room keeps her from getting disturbed by random noises in the night.  (like the house settling or us waking up) Good luck......hope this works out for you.

Angela - posted on 11/27/2009

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I made sure to feed mine before bedtime, with some rice cereal or oatmeal, I know it sounds kinda wierd, but when their stomach were full.. they slept all night. They usually woke up because they were hungry, or wet, so I tried the food thing.

HELEN - posted on 11/27/2009

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HI, THANKS GUYS FOR THE IDEAS, BUT I HAVE ALREADY TRIED ALL THESE AND NONE AT ALL SEEM TO WORK FOR ME AT ALL, NO MATTER HOW LONG I TRY, IT'S JUST NOT GETTIN ANY EASIER, OR BETTER, I THINK IM JUST GONNA HAVE TO WAIT UNTILL HE JUST DOES SLEEP THRU THE NITE ALL BY HIMSELF, IT'S GONNA BE SO PAINFULL WITH A NEWBORN AS WELL AS HIM BEIN UNDER THE AGE OF 2 BUT I DON'T SEE NO OTHER OPTIONS, I WENT TO A SPECIALIST AT THE HOSPITAL AND THEY SAY IT'S NORMAL, THERE'S NO WAY IT'S NORMAL I KNOW THAT, BUT I CANNOT CHANGE IT, SO THANKS FOR THE HELP AND IDEAS. HELEN.

Janette - posted on 11/26/2009

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When Amber was younger we had a problem with getting her to sleep in her cot. what my health visitor told me to do was to put her down awake, so that she doesnt suddenly wake up wondering where she is at. I agree with the other replies, you do need to have a routine.

Also, I dont think that it is good that your son wont have milk. It would be good if you could get him to take some, ideally warmed just before bed. If not, just make sure that he has it with breakfast cereals, has yoghurts etc.

Also, if hes sleeping in your bed, he could be waking up because hes overheating and therefore thirsty? It would really be best if you could get him into his cot. And you really gotta be firm.

With a baby on the way, you cant have him in the bed when the little one arrives. Has your health visitor told you about controlled crying? It's not nice, but it worked in 3 days for Amber! what you do is tuck your son up in his cot, leave him with gentle music if you think that will help keep him calm. If he starts screaming, you leave him 5 mins, then go up and resettle him, do not overdo cuddling and do not play. then if he starts up the crying again leave it 10mins and go on like that. Also it would be good if you could get him to take some milk just before bedtime, say half an hour before to help settle him to bed.

If you have any other problems, just give us a shout.

Good luck!

Janette

Fizah - posted on 11/26/2009

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Sounds so familiar. . Mine 2 years old still asking milk 3 times a night. . Luckily my other 2 kids not like that. . I tried sumting before . . I make sure that he eat well during the day. .So thats hes full. . And he did sleep thru the night. . But that was only on my lucky days. . Its almost impossible. . Thanks for bringing this up. .Will try the other MOM suggestions!!

Natasha - posted on 11/26/2009

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Shoe...You must be finished.....7month pregant and no sleep!!!! I can emaging....I am stressed when mine does not want to nap in the afternoon! I will share my tricks and I hope that they can help!

No sugars after 14h00. At around 16h30 ~ 17h00 in the afternoon I tend to keep excitment to a minimum...supper very calm and relaxed, no stimulating tv programs just all relaxed I do not allow my tot to become roudy as this wakes her up again. Bathtime is also very low key...no splashing just calm play! I give her a massage after her bath. From the bathroom we go back to the livingroom where her dad would be on the couch...she usually cuddles with him and has a bottle (I give her te choice, rooibos tea plain no sugar or milk) I tell her once the program is up and bottie is done we are off to bed...she even reminds me mom its finished ( very cute)...well off we go to her room! (Bedtime around 19h00)
Here the mood stays calm...no bright lights, if a story is read it needs to be a calm one aswell....NB no books with dragons, spiders etc...mine then does not want to sleep! It is amazing what their imagination gets up to!
I ask for a hug we say our prays...then I put on her favourite calm kiddy cd, put out the light and off I go....I only hear from her around 07h00 in the morning....no waking up. If she does not have a nap in the afternoon I just put her to sleep an hour earlier...then there are no fights! ( This routine was not easy to build up it took some time)

I think if you could get your tot into a routine like that your life will be much easier....our second baby is now 7 months old and they are both in this routine already so by 20h00 I am free to do my stuff!!!

It is hard at first....but stick to your guns...once the new baby is there...your hands will be full and your family will just be stressed and that is not good in the longrun!!!

Remember they are very clever little people and also have a way out....get a routine and stick to it....They love routine but love to test it aswell so be prepared. Oh and one thing get everybody (dad, grandma) in you fam to know the bedtime routine so when you go in to hospital for the birth the tot will be relaxed and know what is comming next!!!

Good Luck with the next few months.
Let me know how it all goes Natasha

Crystal - posted on 11/26/2009

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Trying warming milk water juice before bedtime. also a nice hot bath will help..they have this stuff called bedtime baby..by Johnson its in a purpule bottle and it helps relax the baby..also they have lotion that seems to work best for my son. its also bedtime baby in a pink tube. and having nice peacfull music as the fall asleep helps too..that all the stuff i did for my son and now he just sleeps through the night with out any of it.

HELEN - posted on 11/26/2009

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MY SON IS 19MONTHS OLD NOW, HAS NEVER SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT AND HAS TAKEN HIMSELF OFF OF BOTTLES, HIS BOTTLES NOW ARE JUST JUICE ONLY, WILL NOT DRINK MILK...HE ALSO WILL NOT GO TO SLEEP UNLESS HE'S IN OUR BED, AND WAKES UP SEVERAL TIMES DURING THE NITE, SOMETIMES FOR HIS JUICE AND OTHER TIMES I DUNNO WHY, HE CRIES THEN LIES BACK DOWN TO GO BACK TO SLEEP WITH SOME ENCOURAGEMENT, THEN HE WAKES UP EARLY AFTER NOT GOIN TO SLEEP TILL AFTER 2-3-4-5AM IN THE MORNING, WAKES UP EARLY AT AROUND 8:30AM-9AM AND GOES ALL DAY, MOST DAYS WITHOUT AN ARVO NAP, MY HUSBAND AND I AND GRANDMA ARE ALL SO DRAINED ALL THE TIME AND JUST WANT TO KNOW IF THEREIS ANYTHIN WE CAN DO TO STOP THIS ROUTINE??? SOMEONE PLZ HELP AS WE HAVE ANOTHER BABY DUE IN 3MOINTHS. HELEN.

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